I'm 24 and partners 23 he started having a breakdown prior to the knowledge of us being pregnant and then whilst he was sectioned in hospital I found out I was pregnant. He's back at home living with me and my family now, he's not violent or aggressive just very very depressed. All he can do is sleep all day and anytime the baby is mentioned it upsets him. He doesn't want the baby or the pressures of adult life and can't cope with the idea of us having a child. To make things more confusing he keeps saying he's gay then saying he's not so we're not sexually active anymore were more in a platonic relationship but he doesn't want to break up and blames me for making him think he's gay. I'm really struggling to stay strong.
I've struggled with depression my whole life and being around someone who's clinically depressed is really triggering. He's unable to work which puts the burden on me and as he's not from the UK or worked here long enough he can't receive and government benefits.
He keeps trying to commit suicide and I'm so terrified to leave him alone, when he's sleeping I constantly check his breathing incase he's done some thing without my knowledge.
Has anyone been through anything similar I'm not sure what to do. His family are all in romania so without me he's homeless and can't get accommodation from the council. I don't feel I can care for him and when the baby comes I fear it will get worse. This situation is very isolating and it feels as if noone can understand even though I have friends and family for support I don't want to add extra worry to them and don't want them to become hostile to him. I think I just needed to vent my stresses by coming here, I hope that people have some insight but if not just typing this helps.