Here we go again.

[OrmIrian]

I can feel it creeping up on me. Too much crap going on atm, too tired and bloody fed up to deal with it. Eating junk because it's the only thing that comforts me (which of course makes it worse). Second period in 2 weeks which really doesn't help. School's Ofsted report was appalling and I'm trying to keep it in perspective. All those threads about MNers lovely DH's buying rings for them - spent a few hours helping colleague choose eternity ring for his wife last week - came to me that DH has never ever bought me anything like that and then it struck me that that is because I don't deserve it because I'm just a drudge and it's never going to change. We're broke and that's how it's going to be forever. I do everything for everybody and I'm worn out by it.. ATM it feels as if everything I do or try to do is a failure. So why bother?

Stupid little things going wrong push me off kilter. I've got quite good at keeping myself on course these days but I've forgotten how to get myself back when it's happened. Help please.

Eat a banana now and then come back.

A banana?

Oh OK. Does it help

maybe Nab3 means by eating healthily it will stablise your blood sugar and lift your mood.
I would get checked out by your gp, 2 periods in a fortnight must be making you feel depleted.

I see. I wasn't sure if she might have been taking the p*. Not that I'd blame her. I've eaten half a bag of liqorice alsorts - does that count . But I've also just been for a 3 mile run which helped. I now feel there's a reason for feeling floppy and tired.

RE the periods - I suspect it's me age compo . They've been a bit off for a year. I guess I should see the GP but don't seem to find the time.

Oh no, I wasn't taking the p*. I have had PND 3 times and AND once and it is awful. Re the banana - A recent survey by MIND suggested that people suffering from depression felt much better after eating a banana. This is becasue bananas contain tryptophan, a type of protein that the body converts into serotonin - known to make you relax and improve your mood.

Definitely check you're iron. It won't make the crap disappear, but you might feel better about dealing with it. If no time for GP, then next time your in Boots invest in a box of spatone sachets of iron water(vitamins aisle, at the bottom shelf next to the tonics and such). Swear I can feel the stuff coursing through my veins. Take it in a glass of juice (or with a banana :-)

Also, if hormones are all over ht eplace, will also make you feel rubbish. Eat junk but also take a multivit. Even just once a day each some fruit instead of junk - or at least as well as. Small small changes.

Meanwhile, don't know enough about you to say about school thing - is it where you work, or where dc is? If the latter, how are they doing themselves? If they're OK, I'd not worry about it right now. Sounds like one thing more than you need.

Sorry, got to go, but saw your OP and had to post something. Feeling very similar right now. Can give out the advice, but rubbish at taking it

Thanks everyone.

nab - apologies for assuming you were taking the whatsit. That is a bit how I feel atm. That no-one is likely to take me seriously or care. Which is a bit needy and pathetic and not really like me at all. I will try some bananas - not my favourite thing but bearable

jakaroo - i do take multivits most days but I'll try some extra iron. I do look like one of the living dead atm so it might be an issue. Tend to be pale anyway but now I'm a whiter shade.... so to speak.

NAB3 is right about the bananas. When I am stressed and can't eat much they are a very easy to eat source of vits and complex carbs.

Try not to focus on the dh bought a ring thing or that you are skint - we are continually skint - because these things will bring you down. When I am feeling really down I find it easiest to focus on physical things like eating well and exercising and when you are feeling better then the emotional stuff is easier to handle.

My current aims are to eat healthily and walk for 15 mins a day. You say you feel like a failure so maybe you are giving yourself too much pressure. You need to do things for yourself and then congratulate yourelf for doing them. You do deserve congratulating but maybe dh has a problem expressing himself in that way.

No probs. I have been there.