What can we do?

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So step son is 24, around a 4 year history of depression, social anxiety, suicidal thoughts, attempted suicide twice by minor self harming (scratches wrist with blunt knife) gets referred to CPN, gets seen once or twice, they tell him to self refer to 'time to talk' or such like, he never does, and around we go again. He's on 30 mg mitazapine which he either doesn't take or takes 2 doses at once and then texts his dad about how awful he feels. The GP does no follow up at all, we get told he's an adult and there is nothing they can do , they list it as non engagement. He lives with us, his room is in a dreadful state, he doesn't look after his personal hygiene so everything smells awful.
Today, we managed to start clearing his room so that he has a proper bed rather than revolting mattresses on the floor only to find him sitting on the floor sobbing. Just what do we do? We keep seeing on the TV about all the help there is for mental health, hear the celebrity telling their stories, yet there is no help available to him.

The tv ad’s are a joke😂 the nhs mh is on there knees. You maybe able to get help if you live on a remote island, city wise very hard
He as to do it himself, one of you could perhaps go to gp with him and go in(if he allows)
It all depends on your area unfortunately, and I should imagine after lockdown end they will be flooded with referrals.

He needs to take the meds seriously, every day dose, would he be willing to let u give it to him? He can’t take 2 doses in one day ie 60mg no wonder he feels bad, his SE will be through the roof.

Yep mental health service is appalling.
My sibling was hospitalised for an overdose. They discharged & they were referred for ongoing support from the MH team. Never heard from them.
When, 3 weeks later they were actively suicidal again, DM was phoning the crisis team every half hour. Kept getting told ‘they’ll phone you back...’ they never did. Same again the following day when, finally 4:45pm, someone phoned to say assessments have finished for the day so they can’t be seen. Go to A&E.

So many people are being failed.
Is getting private help an option? So sorry, it’s is so hard seeing someone go through this and feel you are not able to help them. As pp said taking regular medication is important. If one of you could hand him a tablet with his morning cuppa he could feel so much better in a few weeks which would help him to find coping strategies, support groups or engage in talking therapy or something.

Thanks for replying, his dad has tried to go with him, they get to the door of the appointment and he tells the GP that he doesn't want his dad there. Sadly he feels that I wrecked his life with his dad as I met his dad 5 years after his mum died so won't allow me anywhere near. We've tried to suggest we give it to him but he hides them and we can't police whether hes actually put them in his mouth. He also then gets paranoid and suggests we are trying to poison him. I've looked up different charities etc and they all say it has to come from him, but he doesn't want it.