Was threatened by neighbor.

[Theodoreb]

I have bipolar and schizophrenia and a long line of domestic abuse from age 13- age 28 I am 32 now. Police been called many times and needed hospital care many times. My neighbor knows I have serious mental health issues he knows about the bipolar from my ex but no one knows about the schizophrenia other than my mum.

Next door said to me yesterday that "you best move the mess from my front garden that it's embarrassing and that the while street are talking about me and that I should be ashamed" I have a wardrobe and a swing set out there waiting for council to collect. I tried to explain that it was being moved in a week by council but he said that wasn't good enough.

I phoned council up today who advised I contact police so police came round this morning and told me that the stuff was fine as I had tried my best to move it as I also tried getting a licensed rubbish waste collector and paid him nearly £50 but he gave me the money back as said no one licensed can take it and if anyone does they are going to fly tip it. So police officer said he'd tell the neighbors that I had done my best to sort things out, he complimented me on how well I looked now as he has dealt with previous domestic abuse calls and also said how lovely my house was and that he would have a word with next door telling him it was my property none of it was on his land and as I owned the house I could legally keep it there. Next door was out.

About a hour after police left next door knocked my door shouting who called police on him. I said quietly "I'm sorry but you made me feel intimidated yesterday and as you know I've suffered a lot of abuse" he replied less than a foot away pointing his finger in my face " I didn't intimidate you yesterday but now I will don't you dare ever call the police on me again and you keep yourself to yourself from now on your not to speak to anyone and get this moved (he punched the wardrobe) today"

So I called police they came up and told him they would take things further if he didn't leave me alone that I had done everything possible in lockdown to sort the issue out and there was no need to go threatening me, that's all I heard from the window and after about ten minutes with odd words being shouted, like embarrassing.
Police knocked my door told me not to stress he should leave me alone now and that the garden down the street was ten times worse. That they understood what I'd been through and that I didn't owe him a explanation as I was quite within my rights to store stuff on my land and he had no right to threaten me.

I really am sorry about the garden I really have very little room in my house and the swing set is dismantled and has been pulled out the ground and don't want that in house with kids.

Just feel really anxious and frightened now I tried to explain to him and police officer said when he tried to explain my next door neighbor became aggressive and that he has a bee in his bonnet( his words) about me. That he tried saying my house was messy when he's never seen inside and police man had told me earlier how nice my house was looking considering I'm a single mum of 3 kids and have spent loads doing it up. Just frightened now of going in my garden again I had only just started going out there as he always says nasty things to me or just ignores me making me paranoid and anxious to go out there.

Get CCTV up. Sorry he’s such a horrible person. Try to ignore him, he’s a bully who thrives on upsetting other people.

It's good that the police are on your side in this, the officer who came sounds very nice & he is correct in saying that you have the right to store anything you like on your land.

I've had various problem neighbours & the only way I've dealt with them is a) by being assertive & confident and b) threatening them with police if needed.

You've called the police and they've backed you up.
Now you can feel confident that you are in the right and your neighbour is just not a very nice man. The best way to deal with him is to ignore him! This will probably irritate him but it will feel good.
Please try to enjoy your garden in this nice weather.

I've been feeling a bit paranoid about my neighbour as I've been unwell very recently but luckily the feelings are passing off, but it isn't pleasant to feel paranoid so I do understand.

Thanks both @Terralee I am thinking about wearing my head set in garden a few days as not only does that make me less paranoid but also will mean I won't be able to hear him. Hoping now I've told police on him he will leave me alone.

My friend has agreed to build me a 6ft fence so as soon as my money goes in that's what I'm doing police officer said he thought that was brill as would keel him out of my way.

Yes listening to your own music does help. Plus I have high enough fences that my neighbour's can't see what I'm doing.

I fell out with my next door neighbours partner but I get on really well with her so he's having to be pleasant to me haha

I am outside so is neighbor I am just ignoring him and pretending like he isn't even there

Quite right. Just be safe. It’s good the police are being helpful and are looking after you.

But I wouldn’t sit with my back to where he could enter my property as there is no fence? I’d just keep an ear or an eye half open. But perhaps that’s just me as I too have been through some stuff!

A six foot fence is an excellent idea. Gives you and dc some privacy.

@Elieza there is a wall but I think it's his wall so don't want to attach fence to it in case he makes me take it down. I wouldn't sit with my back to him either too much experience also sadly for us both I have a patio down the side between two extensions so I sit in there. It's under shade and I don't like too much direct sun so perfect for me.

Even my friend commented on the garden down the street being ten times worse as she drove past last night when police were there so phoned to see if I was ok and find out what had happened and she said he wants to be glad he's not living down the road.