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My mental health is really going downhill because of him!

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inthedarkx · 28/05/2020 13:30

Anyone else who doesn’t own their own home and doesn’t feel bad about it? My ex came to my house yesterday to see the kids and saw that I bought a few new things for my house and gave me a massive lecture that I shouldn’t be spending money and I should be saving to buy a house for their future. I currently rent a council property. He said that him and his gf and saving a deposit to buy a house for their son and her two kids prom previous. I told him at the moment I can’t buy coz I’m out of work since he left me for another woman. I said the house he buys and pays for will support two other kids that are not his and our kids won’t benefit. He said he doesn’t care because our kids are on ‘my side’ and it’s my job to buy them a house. Saying they will question why I haven’t when they are older
I feel like utter crap. He said I have the ‘poor people mentality’ I’ve literally had enough and now feel like a bad person as my credit isn’t the best due to a bout of depression ( most likely caused by how emotional abuse whilst we was together)
Plus he DOES NOT financially support his kids so that’s why he’s able to save as much as he is. Even though I don’t work at the moment ( wish I did so bad) I still make sure my children eat well and have essentials. I told him when I do get back
To work I can do all these things and so t need him telling me what to do. He said I will never get a job because I’ve got kids and if I do he will cut his finger off. Just had enough of it all.

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RandomMess · 28/05/2020 13:58

I wouldn't let him inside your home ever again!!!

You don't need to discuss anything other than the DC welfare and contact arrangements.

He sounds a nasty emotionally abusive piece of work...

Zhuleva · 28/05/2020 14:15

Ignore him- he spins like a nasty piece of work and is trying to wind you up. Keeping a nice home environment is important and a great thing to do. You’re not a failure at all - you just happen to have a complete dick for an ex. Don’t be too hard on yourself x

Zhuleva · 28/05/2020 14:16

*sounds

Lo5tcause · 28/05/2020 14:36

Oh op he sounds like a complete twat and you are well rid. As pp said, I wouldn't let him over the door again. And most importantly I would ensure he is held financially accountable for his children asap. Owning property isn't the be all and end all. You sound like you have a lovely home for your kids.

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