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Anxiety - what will help?

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aliceinsunderland44 · 23/05/2020 12:25

I have suffered with bouts of anxiety for many years now. I've been through periods where it's been pretty non existent but over the last year it has become more prevalent and prolonged. Before lockdown I had planned to see my GP because it was getting to the point where it was beginning to stop me going places and doing things. But I never got the chance and while I know I can still speak to the GP over the phone it's something I'd prefer to explore face to face.

The key symptoms are panic, racing heart, nausea and a nervous tummy which usually makes me urgently need the toilet. The last symptom has in itself become a huge issue for me as I'm constantly aware that if I get anxious I will need the loo and this consequently makes me avoid places where a toilet isn't easily accessible. Over the past year I've gradually stopped going on long car/motorway journeys. I hate having to go on site meetings with work. I even avoid my son's assemblies and football matches because I feel like I'm stuck in situations where I can't easily dash off to the loo. Any unfamiliar surroundings set me off until I know where a toilet is. And obviously at the minute with public loos all being closed I darent venture far from home. I worry about how this period of lockdown and not going anywhere will affect me once it's time to get back to normal life.

I need to tackle this. I tried cbt before with limited success. I'm wondering if medication will help? I've never tried it before but I think if I can control the anxiety then the physical symptoms ie needing the loo may ease?

If anyone has any advice or experience I'd really love to hear it. I feel very alone.

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aliceinsunderland44 · 23/05/2020 12:39

Anyone?

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Chatons · 23/05/2020 12:44

Maybe ask your doctor about beta blockers? These help with physical symptoms of anxiety.

If you started at a low dose and tried them out at home, you could see if you can tolerate them and if they help.

Also an SSRI antidepressant might help as well.

seaandsand1 · 23/05/2020 12:45

I don’t suffer with this personally, but didn’t want to read and not reply.

I do find with my physical symptoms - that getting to the bottom of the anxiety is usually enough to help ease them, so that may be the same with you.

For me, I find weekly therapy really useful. I also watch YouTube videos that have self help skills. Kati Morton is particularly good. She has lots of to ideas to help.

aliceinsunderland44 · 23/05/2020 13:49

Thank you for the suggestions. I have found that some techniques like not eating before a long car journey for example can help a bit but it's not always practical.

I have become borderline obsessive about knowing where a toilet is. If I could just shift my focus off that and learn not to think about it I think the physical symptoms would definitely ease.

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Asgoodasarest · 23/05/2020 22:56

I could have written your post. I am still working through it myself, but wanted you to know you’re not the only one.

Haggisfish · 23/05/2020 22:59

I take medication at a low dose and will do forever. I take duloxetine and it is like turning the anxiety tap off. Absolutely life changing for me. And I do all the other stuff too-creativity, stability and good support network which are invaluable.

aliceinsunderland44 · 23/05/2020 23:01

Thank you, these replies give me hope. I don't want my life to be governed by my anxiety and my bowels!!!!

It's very hard to know how to deal with this when it's a combination of physical and mental problems.,

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SteelLucy · 23/05/2020 23:07

I was like this and can still be on an off day!
I always carry Imodium on me.. it's nice to know in the back of my mind that I have something that will stop me having a bad stomach, so it also eases the anxiety of that too!

aliceinsunderland44 · 23/05/2020 23:19

@SteelLucy I used Imodium as a precaution for a long time but unfortunately it has stopped working. I try not to eat if I know I have to go somewhere that I can't get out of but it's not a great way to live. I need to learn to conquer my demons but I just don't know how

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Yellowcakestand · 23/05/2020 23:47

I take a low dose of sertraline and it works for me, just takes that edge off. Now from sleeping 1 hour per night from constantly walking around the house checking window and door locks I sleep for about 6 hours. I no longer feel nervous and sick. Sometimes on an evening my mind still won't shut down and I could take a while to get to sleep but breathing exercised calm me (wimhof method)

MoreSchnitzelPlease · 24/05/2020 00:28

Your GP may be able to prescribe medication to calm your stomach after eating. I take Mebeverine 20 mins before meals and it helps with the stomach churning and cramps. Some days are better than others re. my upset tummy.

Don't be afraid to start medication for your anxiety. There are lots of options available and it may take time to find the right one for you, but it is absolutely a positive step in the right direction. I take Sertraline for my anxiety, and a daily beta blocker.

One thing I find helpful is acknowledging the anxiety. I can spend all day trying to pretend I don't feel anxious, and trying to avoid those feelings, but it just makes it worse for me. If I acknowledge it, even talking to myself and saying "I acknowledge I am feeling anxious about xyz" it helps to take the power out of it. I think I got the idea from a Dr Matt Lewis book.

Auty123 · 24/05/2020 07:38

I find weighted items on my tummy or body helps you can also buy weighted blankets

31133004Taff · 24/05/2020 07:41

Meditation to enable you to ride the wave of feelings. It is hard. 💐

abitfunny · 24/05/2020 07:47

Sertraline low dose takes the edge off. Eating well, less sugar, running every other day and meditating upon waking are the key things that keep me on the straight & narrow x

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