The title says it all really, my sister is 25 and still lives with my mom, doesn’t work, doesn’t contribute towards the house/bills she is in a load of debt, things have been up and down for months now but since the lockdown they have gotten a lot worse in regards to more drink and drugs use, today things really got out of hand and my sister was quite aggressive towards my mother, lashed out, screaming in her face, pushing her around, my mother is 68 and currently shielding due to lung disease and recently recovering from cancer, it’s all too much for her and she is struggling with her mental health also, she rings me in tears daily asking me to help and to talk to my sister, I have done this on many occasions and suffered a broken nose, a black eye and burns from trying to “help” not to mention the general abuse and swearing I get, spitting in my face, throwing things at me, name calling.
We have tried many things with my sister, groups, counselling, rehab facilities, medication but she is just on a downward spiral with no end, today she has threatened to kill herself and vanished for hours with her phone off and I’ve had to drive round looking for her because my mom was distraught and worried she had killed herself, I’ve also had to go and visit my mom to calm her down breaking the rules which I have been so strict in keeping to but I couldn’t leave her like that with all this going on as I am worried about her mental health more than ever now.
I can’t have my sister here because I have a child and I don’t trust her to be here with her drug use.
I’m on the edge of a nervous breakdown with everything going on, I have terrible anxiety and can’t sleep, terrible acid reflux all day and night, I’m still working full time and trying to home school, go shopping etc in between and im finding this so overwhelming, I have no idea what to do to help my mom or sister and I feel like I can’t cope with the pressure of trying to fix things anymore