To ask if anyone is is a Psychiatrist I really need help

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I don't know what to do. My house that I normally take such pride in is a complete mess. I am really struggling mentally. I've been hiding it from friends and family but I just can't cope.

I don't understand how I can go from a home worthy of interior decorating awards to this because I feel so low. I can motivate myself to do anything apart from step over the mess.

I have normal days where I think what on earth was I thinking during these current episodes. I don't care about my appearance. Then when I change I am the opposite. Really smart really take care of myself have a beautiful home again.

I want to stop this. My period can trigger it off also breakdown of relationships can also. The feeling is like a deep badness and a foggy feeling in my mind. I really hate it. It feels like something has changed in my head and I have to wait for it to lift

Can I ask if you have been ill this winter? I got ill in December and I went through a couple months of having a messy house because I was run down for a while after. Please don't feel at all bad about the mess. Just take care of anything that is or could become a heath hazard, take a nice bath, and cuddle your kids.

If you have a bit of money have some new slippers and a bath bomb, or chocolates or flowers, or all four! You are absolutely worth it!

Don't hide how you feel or the state of your house from family. Remember anyone who cares more about that than they care about you is not someone you want around anyway.

The doctor will absolutely not decide you're not fit to be a mum. Remember doctors and social services are there to help you. If you ask for help and they don't put adequate support in then it would actually be their fault if you are still not coping. So share the load with anyone you can!
(Bare in mind social services probably wouldn't help you and would just waste your time, as the families they concern themselves with are doing far worse. )

Now about the periods, I am this way too, I wake up and feel I can't deal, then get mad at myself, then a day or two later period starts. I use this time for introspection and planning, because when I feel that way it's clear what I want to get rid from my life!

But also can I ask what birth control you use? Sometimes the hormones can deplete our b vitamins. I found veganicity b vitamin complex fixed my mood in one dose and my brain fog in one week. Absolutely magic, honestly, it's like mental health first aid.. Don't take it every day for months on end, or you could get numb fingers as I did!

Oh yes I have had coronavirus I have been ill for weeks and only just getting better. I didn't think of that.

I am using qlaira in the hope it would fix heavy periods. So far three months in it hasn't. I use a mooncup so I am aware I'm changing a full cup 4 times a day I know that is a very heavy bleed. I'm trying to take iron to help with the tiredness. I will look at vit b too thank you

Just wanted to come back as o saw you updated and spoke a little about your abusive relationship.

I think that that puts a whole different spin on things and you should absolutely call the GP and seek some help. Children DO NOT ever get taken from parents because their house needs a bit of a clean and tidy. Please don’t let that hold you back.

Perhaps you could talk through some of this with women’s aid as they might be able to help you figure out what you want to say to the GP?

You could also write down what you’d like to say and hand it to the GP if you feel unable to get your words out which would be so understandable.

Try and be kind to yourself and accept that you’re going through something shit. But you will feel better.

Hope you get on ok with the GP.

Thank you all for the kindness. I am waiting for the gp to contact me. It seems logical that recovery would leave me feeling like this and with illness on top. I was feeling like such a failure thank you all

Ring your GP. Today.

Well done, first step is the hardest.
My house is a state after having coronavirus, I’m absolutely shattered and only managing the bare minimum. Don’t beat yourself up.

Well done on ringing the gp. Hope you get on ok

Hi op sorry you're feeling like this, I can relate. You mentioned perhaps a hormonal link to this with your period, have you heard of PMDD? I have it so thought I'd mention it. You can get resources and symptom checker on www.iampmd.org. The condition can be triggered by trauma so might be worth looking into.

You are not a failure and you should not be ashamed. I hope your GP gives you the support you need.

Oh wow OP, I'm sure that is what it must be then! Coronavirus will definitely affect your energy level, mood and thinking for a couple months afterwards my dear! (physically, and not just from the worry of having it or catching up on missed work!)

Hope you can get a bit of support from family now and stop hiding how you feel from them. Of course with social distancing they can only help with certain things, but maybe someone could do a shop for you?

Do you get a chance to put your feet up? Hope you feel better soon. You must be a toughie to have come this far! x

Oh op my heart breaks reading this as you sound lovely. I can just feel the struggle you are under. Tallking to your GP honestly will help, don't feel ashamed. You'll be amazed how quickly things can turn around with rest, talking, getting therapy or medication if you need it. Don't beat yourself up.

It may be that you have anxiety or depression or something underlying like undiagnosed adhd. I know exactly what it feels like to be unable to function, do what you need to rest and take baby steps. It gets easier and there are kind people out there who will listen to you and help you along the way .

How are you feeling today op