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Struggling

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Doggymummy86 · 14/05/2020 12:02

I’m hoping that writing my feelings down will help. In the middle of last year I lost my dog around my dads birthday who passed at a young age - this I think has triggered of anxiety and made me realise that I hadn’t grieved for my dad. Now I know what your thinking “just a dog” but he was my whole routine and life. I went to the doctor for a different reason until she asked “how are you” and I broke down. She thought I had anxiety and grief depression but because I refused pills and I was doing enough self care she was happy ... but for the last 6 weeks I’ve been struggling, it has nothing to do with the current situation (Covid) but the feeling of being useless, not good enough, I’m scared of losing everyone me, I’m a full time carer for my grandmother and I am getting some help from carers, crying and I have ocd which is getting worse etc.
I’m not one for going to the doctors - In fact I’ve got a fear of them and I only go when I know things are serious. I decided that I finally needed professional help and called my doctors today, I couldn’t even get passed the receptionist who said “we can’t help but phone a helpline”.
I am struggling as it is and it took a lot of courage for me to phone the doctors today just to be told they can’t help which I will admit has put me offnphoning the helpline. I don’t feel suicidal just really low and crappy. I am a mental health first aider so I know the steps I need to take but I feel today has just pushed me back.

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sleepismysuperpower1 · 14/05/2020 12:27

I'm so sorry for your loss, and I'm sorry the receptionist was unhelpful too. Could you try contacting CALM? They have a live chat feature if you don't feel like you can phone, but it might help to talk things through with someone, and they have a telephone option also. They are open from 5pm-Midnight every day. All the best Flowers

Doggymummy86 · 14/05/2020 12:50

I’ll have a look into that - I have got the calm app But to be honest I haven’t looked at it, the self help I was doing; yoga, walking, meditation even housework just isn’t helping anymore. I know I need some sort of grief counselling but I would have loved to just speak to my doctor via telephone consultation just to know what I’m dealing with rather than googling.
Thank you for your advise x

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SidSparrow · 14/05/2020 20:41

Hi

Ugh! Doctors receptionists are the worst!!
Phone back tomorrow and state that you would like to speak to YOUR doctor. If the receptionist gives you any crap, just say, 'thanks all the same, but I would still like to talk to MY doctor.' Don't be put off by them. And if you are nervous you don't have to tell them what it's about, make something up. Say you've had terrible migraines with flashing lights and nobs on! You've been fainting, anything! Frankly, I hate this whole telling the receptionist what I'm calling about. It's intrusive. They are little sad gatekeepers.

Good luck!!

Doggymummy86 · 15/05/2020 16:00

I was actually thinking about phoning back but it just set me back - feeling okay today, feeling embarrassed And feeling like a drama queen that I let myself feel so shitty yesterday 😩

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