I've been with my partner for around 5 years. We have two beautiful children but I must admit the whole experience has been very dramatic and is starting to pay it's toll on my own mental state.
It started with in the lead up to our eldest being born. I fell in love with my partner and we probably went into things a bit quick. She was 31 and I 35. Constant drama over very minor things.
She's been diagnosed with anxiety twice. First time wouldn't take the medication. This was after a very unsavoury incident and night after an engagement party. Petty jealousy and focusing on my past (Nope, nothing to hide). We got hope around 0030 hrs, to bed about 4 after her scratching my back and legs and her father coming around to lecture us both. All I wanted to do was get to bed.
Secondly was when returned to work after maternity leave in January. She went off with stress and was given a list of numbers to contact and did nothing.
I find her extremely negative and I think she is now entering depression. She's now started getting very verbally abusive and says she doesn't want to be with me. Every day she picking arguments and taking her moods out on the children. I want to keep our family together and believe it's down to her mental state which is borderline narcissistic if I'm totally honestI've been doing alot of reading
I've now had big fall outs with her parents over the last few months as they've not encouraged her to seek help. They actually believe it's all down to me and it's like events in the past haven't happened (Of which there are plenty!) They never really see both sides.
My own parents are sitting on the fence at the moment but are seeing how painful this all is for me. I think they're ready to tell her some home truths, and her parents.
I'm lost at the moment and all I can really do is wait things out during lockdown and hope it's the added to the stress of all this.