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Struggling to find the positive and so angry...

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KillashandraRee · 01/05/2020 14:10

I am really struggling at the moment, I feel so angry and bitter which is not normal for me. My husband and I are both working, he's working 5 days a week from home (50+hrs a week). I'm working my usual 3 days although end up doing longer days as I start at 6am i the hope of getting the work done so I can have time off to do school work in the afternoon, but inevitably I just end up working longer. Plus on both of my 'days off' I'm ending up doing anywhere between 3-5 hrs work as we've furloughed so many staff (tourism company) that I have no one to help. It's a family business we are struggling to save so there isn't a choice of me being furloughed. And we have a 6 and 8 year old at home that we are also trying to home school and no one is allowed to help.

I'm finding my anger at people is bubbling over and it's scary. I'm so angry with other people in the company who are furloughed and able to be at home with their family. I'm angry at friends who are stay at home mums so can do the home schooling. I'm particularly angry with a number of local companies I know who could be working safely but have furloughed staff and see it as a free holiday and keep posting sanctimonious posts on social media about how they are 'caring for the community by closing' and then posting all the DIY jobs they are getting done.

We're working so bloody hard every day and the poor children are being neglected, I see all the work being posted on the schools website that other parents are doing, and frankly I would love to be making f***g models out of pebbles with my children. It's been getting me down for weeks but now I can't see an end to it and I'm seething with resentment which is so unhealthy and unhappy. The house is a pit as I haven't time to clean it and at the end of each day it all starts again like groundhog day. I dont know what to do....I feel like a teenager moaning that it's not fair (and I know life isn't) and I just feel overwhelmed by the feelings of resentment and anger, I dont know how to let it go.

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KillashandraRee · 01/05/2020 16:15

And to add to it all we’ve just been refused the business interruption loan on the grounds of our credit rating, when our credit rating is good (only one down from the top). I just don’t know how we get through this.. feeling so low. X

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lamacorn · 01/05/2020 16:33

I completely understand why you're boiling over. So many aspects of the current situation and your personal current situation makes for this scenario.

I can do much other than offer a handhold.

I've lost my livelihood and am now cook cleaner teacher with a DH who spends 10 hours a day on video calls. Thankfully he still has a job.

Brew
KillashandraRee · 01/05/2020 17:51

Iamacorn sorry to hear you’ve lost your livelihood. Is it something that can come back when things reopen? X

I know I should be grateful to still have a job and every time I think these thoughts I know there are SO many people worse off than me. Which then adds guilt to the mix. It’s just hard to find the positive and I usually can. When this all started I saw the experts talking about the effects on people’s MH and I nodded and agreed that they were wise but didn’t think it would affect me. I can’t stop crying now it’s like an emotional rollercoaster. Ugh I’m boring myself so sorry for swimming in self pity.

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