Any therapists about?

[parrotonmyshoulder]

Hi,
I’ve had counselling for two years with the same therapist and it has been really helpful. This is not the first time I’ve tried, but has certainly been the most successful.
I am not ready to stop at the moment, particularly as DH and I had significant relationship problems that I only really disclosed relatively recently. He is now attending separate therapy and things are going well between us, for the most part.
Something has come up for me though. I know I need to talk about some past trauma/ abuse memories. But despite all the work I have done with my therapist, I don’t want to do this with her. Is this because it’s the wrong therapist or because I’m not ready? Or is that (as I suspect) impossible for anyone to answer and I should just ask her? We are managing phone counselling during lockdown but it’s not quite the same, so perhaps now is not the time.
Thanks for any thoughts.

Its really impossible to know. Although, if you have felt comfortable opening up to her about other private things, I dont see why you would hesitate with this unless you arent really ready?

One thing I would say is- talking about something horribly traumatic like abuse is opening pandoras box. I wouldnt do that until lockdown has lifted and you are able to chat face to face and have all the support in place that you need. Once the box has been opened its hard to shut it again and things often feel worse before they get better. Doing that in the middle of lockdown when support is limited might not be a good idea.
Well done for being courageous and brave to tackle it though- thats a huge step and it takes guts to go back to things like that. I wish you all the best

I think you should explore with her why you don’t want to talk about it. You don’t have to talk about it in detail, but you should talk about what’s holding you back and see where that goes.

I did something similar - I didn’t know why I didn’t want to talk to my counsellor, but in the end I just talked to her about that and it seemed to help (different circumstances, but similar blockage in the process).