Dog making me more anxious and depressed

[Hannahlouise4026]

Hi.
We got a dog a couple of years ago, we’ve all always wanted one for years but we previously lived in a flat and it just wasn’t the right time. We moved in to a house with a garden a few years back and got our puppy 2 years ago.
I’ve suffered from anxiety and depression for as long as I can remember. Even as a child I was an anxious child who dreaded school. I didn’t expect having a dog would make these feelings worse but they have. I’m a mother of 3 and my husband works long hours so isn’t at home much. Our dog barks constantly, especially in the garden. She then refuses to come inside. She’s terrible on lead and pulls the whole time, it’s hard for me to walk her alone with the kids (one is a baby so In a pram)
She never sits in her bed and constantly follows us around all day, she chews the kids toys. Its like she’s always on alert. I honestly feel so depressed and it’s almost like the dog is heightening my feelings of uselessness - like I can’t even be a good dog owner. My children are fairly hard work so I already feel like I’m failing at motherhood. Some nights I feel like running away.
I’ve spoken to my husband about re homing but he refuses. I just don’t know what to do as feel I can’t go on much longer like this. I know it’s my fault for agreeing to getting a dog, after we’d wanted one for so long.

Well she's untrained. They dont come well behaved, you have to teach them. They're like kids, unchecked they'll run wild.

Have you done any training with her? YouTube is a good bet for methods. Figure out what motivates her. Food? A special toy?

Would a neighbour walk it? We have a family in our street isolating so someone else walks first thing and we walk in the afternoon-we have loved it.

Dogs pick up on surroundings and it could be mirroring your traits. What did you think before you got the dog ? Did you think how you can train the dog ?

Can you afford a dog walker?

Can you corner off a room for them to go and sleep in during the day to give you a break?

Great suggestion to find a neighbour who wants to walk the dog. Lots of people offer on NextDoor app. I would like to walk someone's (I live in a flat and can't have one). Which breed is she? I find chihuahuas and some other small dogs can be anxious.
Yes to more training and consistently applied and practised.

You need to train the dog. Don’t let it outside off a lead and then it can’t refuse to come in. Teach it to walk to heel.
Kids toys need to be put away. Can you put up a room divider.
She’s following you as she’s bored and wants your attention. Give it. Is she walked daily?
Use a baby sling to help with walks?
One day a week of doggy daycare if you can afford it?

Yes, dogs can be hard work, no doubt about it. When you say you wanted one for years, what did you imagine? I had dreams of wonderful long walks together with my husband in the countryside, lots of laughs and joy, a pet who would be obedient, loving and fun. What I got was constant arguments with my husband, sleeping in separate bedrooms because he wants the dogs on the bed, thousands of pounds in vet bills, never going anywhere on holiday, emotion-draining neediness, not being able to leave the house for more than three hours etc etc. None of this is the dogs' fault, it's just a mis-match between dreams and reality.