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PND?

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Nikki512 · 01/04/2020 14:13

I think I’m suffering from post natal depression my daughter is 12 weeks old and I’ve been back on fluoxetine since she was 2 weeks but I’m not feeling much better. I’m on 20mg.

I’m snappy at my husband feeling like he’s not supporting me and judging me which I know is not the case.
I bearly feel much else happy or sad which I’m sure is the meds.
My bond with my daughter isn’t strong and I feel like a failure atm. She was/is so wanted and loved and I’m letting her down.
I duno what to do regarding helping myself doctors with everything going on atm isn’t seeing patients and I’m worried about leaving the house with all the co-Vid stuff going on
Any ideas? Experiences? Is there a light at the end of the tunnel?

Thanks

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Footygirl6 · 04/04/2020 04:48

Hi @Nikki512,

It would sound to me like you do have PND especially with some of the things you are describing. I know doctors arent seeing anyone at the moment but could you ring and ask to talk to them about how your feeling over the phone, they might review your medication and perhaps your husband could go and get the meds for you so.you dont have to leave the house? Alternatively, could you phone your HV for support?

I dont really have any other advice other than to be gentle to yourself, I'm sure you're doing a much better job than you think you are right now. Flowers

HathorX · 04/04/2020 05:08

Hi, yes - get out of the house every day for an hour's walk, stay in quiet streets and be prepared to avoid people if you encounter them. Go even if it rains. If the baby hates the pram use a sling. Walk as fast as you are able to so you get a bit out of breath, put your phone in your pocket and ignore it.
Exercise, daylight, fresh air is hugely beneficial, it is free and hugely underestimated. With my DS it saved me (vs experience with DD1). Don't worry about covid19, just don't loiter, avoid people and don't touch anything eg park bench.

Next bit of advice, see if your local NCT group on Facebook or other community or mums group is holding online coffee chats. Speaking to other mums usually helps.

To state the obvious, a lot of mums feel like you and usually it is mild pnd, there's no bond, it's not what you hoped and expected, you're too exhausted to be the mum you want to be, you're so empty you feel you could just give up (except deep down you know you can't so you feel trapped too), your OH doesn't get how you feel and that annoys you...and so on.

See if your Oh can have the baby for several hours every other day. A break to do anything other than be a mum would really help you.

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