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What's the point.

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whoknew87 · 31/03/2020 14:30

Been self isolating for a week. I know I have to do a minimum of 12. What's the point. I might as well just die! I'm feeling more and more suicidal as the days go by. I can message and call people as much as I want but it's not the same. Taking away all the things that help me. Swimming. The gym. Seeing my family. Meeting friends for a drink. All the things I utilise you help my mental health I can no longer do. Corona virus will kill me if suicide doesn't first. There is no point to this post other than nobody will find me for weeks anyway!

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TwoCatsSleeping · 31/03/2020 15:45

I am feeling the same OP

Many of us are which is why I hope something is done soon to recognise the mental health crisis has just exploded

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HopeMumsnet · 01/04/2020 09:48

Hi you two, glad that you've found each other to support.

We're just popping on with our standard message, as per our internal guidelines.

We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources.
You can also go to the Samaritans website, or email them on [email protected]. Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek RL help and support as well.

We also like to remind everyone that, although we're awed daily by the astonishing support our members give each other through life's trickier twists and turns, we'd always caution anyone never to give more of themselves to another poster, emotionally or financially, than they can afford to spare.

Much love to you both, do try the various apps (Zoom, Whatsapp, Facetime) to see if that helps with socialising. Keep safe. x

nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut · 01/04/2020 14:37

Me too. I dont know why people are so dismissive and minimise the huge mental health crisis that this lockdown is causing. Yes, its vitally important that we slow the spread but it's like we aren't even allowed to acknowledge the damage being done.

I dont intend to live through 12 weeks of lockdown. I'm not sure I can even manage 3.

LHMBF · 02/04/2020 13:37

I feel the same. What's the point. I don't want to bother being alive anymore. No point in life is there

DianaT1969 · 02/04/2020 13:47

Do you all go out for a walk or run each day? Or do you have underlying health conditions that put you in the vulnerable category?

DianaT1969 · 02/04/2020 14:21

@LH - I'm not negating your feelings. But there's a lot of point in life. We can help others. We can use this time to volunteer for the NHS (assuming no underlying health conditions). The NHS workers have huge mental and emotional strain right now. Some have to live separately from their partners and children. Your contribution would help ease their strain. They will need a lot of MH support after this intense time.
If you are have to stay home due to medical conditions, you can stay safe. People are mobilising to bring you groceries and to stream exercise and virtual get-togethers to your home. You can study, meditate, read, watch funny films and do anything else that brings you joy.
This will be over at some point and you'll be free to see your friends and family whenever you want.
Some people will be grieving loved ones, some will have lost their income and seen their businesses collapse. It's affecting everyone. But we're staying at home for the collective good.

Blossom4538 · 02/04/2020 21:18

I’m struggling too. I was already on anti-depressants and now have my gorgeous child out of school, at home, but it’s exhausting for many reasons and I worry for her. She has High Functioning Autism.

Skeeter2020 · 02/04/2020 21:20

You will all be fine. Just remember, you're not stuck at home, you're safe at home.

WoollySheep462 · 04/04/2020 15:36

Can you do video chat? I felt so low and isolated this morning then did one and felt much better. It stimulates the mind more than a voice down the phone.

WoollySheep462 · 04/04/2020 15:37

Also these are fun:

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potterface29 · 04/04/2020 20:30

Wanted to say you are not alone in how you are feeling. The trouble is there was a mental health crisis before this lockdown so hate to think the state of the mental health in this country afterwards.

And your right, the things that keep me sane are seeing my family, swimming, support groups and now they are all gone. Wish the government would acknowledge this and maybe run a radio station or something for mental health run by a trained physciatrist so you can at least offload to someone.

Please keep holding on x

Surly · 04/04/2020 20:33

The gym is what kept me happy too. Can you do some exercise at home? I know its not exactly the same however it will still help. Even if you dont feel like doing it, push yourself to do it even if it only helped a tiny bir

Waitingforadulthood · 04/04/2020 20:44

I'm so sorry to hear you are feeling so distraught. This is so hard, for so many. It won't last, you will be free at the end of it all, just hold on.

One day at a time.

I've never before experienced suicidal thoughts, but the lockdown has me considering self harm and escape routes. Ways out of the loneliness and tedium, the constant low level worry and pressure of responsibility for my dc. It's so very hard.

FurryAndFluffy · 04/04/2020 22:35

I’m so sorry to hear so many are struggling. It’s not surprising really. I don’t know what I can say to help but I find it helpful to keep reminding myself that the lockdown WILL end. I can’t say when but I can definitely say it will end. We’ve already practically done a week. It’s a take one day at a time situation.

I hope that things improve for everyone. I wish I knew what to say to help.
🌸🌸🌸🌸

user764329056 · 05/04/2020 07:53

Am also in the same boat, it all seems futile and mentally am rapidly declining, the endorphins from the gym were the only thing holding me together before this and home exercise doesn’t produce the same, I live alone and can’t see loved ones, talking on phone & FaceTime are poor substitutes for physical contact, l keep trying to find ways to make this situation more bearable and put some meaning to it but am really struggling

bluemarie87 · 05/04/2020 20:11

A hug releases endorphins. A video cal doesn't quite cut it! I'm absolutely fed up but trying to hold it together for my little boy. I was diagnosed with pnd in January and this on top is also making me question life but every time I look at his face he gets me through it. Friday I felt okay and the this weekend I've gone back down hill again. I am utterly fed up of people saying "there's people on the frontline risking their life's" yes they are! I really really do not knock anybody helping out in anyway they can right now. I'm doing all I can do and staying in. I'm fed up of people knocking mental illness too. It's all the people that clearly have never struggled. I am doing my best to keep going and do my bit but if I get to breaking point and suicidal like I did in January I don't know what I'll do. Alone with a 13 week old baby is so tough! Struggling!

FurryAndFluffy · 05/04/2020 22:23

bluemarie87
I think most people would struggle being at home alone with a 13 week old. Poor mental health plus tiredness plus hormones is never going to be a good mix. It must be really difficult for you. How is your baby doing? At least he is too little to have a clue what's going on.

I hope you feel better soon. 💐💐💐

LHMBF · 06/04/2020 10:43

bluemarie87
PND here too. It's tough

bluemarie87 · 06/04/2020 14:56

Thankfully the last week he's been sleeping really well and he's actually a really good baby. But it's hard and I'm struggling not being able to utilise my family or friends. I by no mean think I'm special and the rules don't apply to me but I just really need to see my family soon!

@LHMBF how long have you been struggling with pnd if you don't mind me asking. I've struggled with anxiety and depression most of my life but the last 2-3 years I've been really well and to be hit with this out of the blue just has been a really kick in the teeth. I can't quite believe how difficult everything is when you're tired and your mental health is struggling.

Also thanks to everybody replying to me!

LHMBF · 06/04/2020 16:50

bluemarie87 my baby is almost 4 months old and I've been struggling since January, I have suffered from depression and anxiety most of my life and crippling insecurities. I seem to be getting worse since her birth. Also having troubles with my period since it started back and feeling very unwell, so the worry of that is adding to it.
I understand what you mean, I was doing much better for a couple of years up until recently.

bluemarie87 · 06/04/2020 18:54

I really do understand how you feel. My anxiety and depression were really bad when I gave birth and in the last 13 weeks I've seen the perinatal team, had different medication and found out I have a lot of deficiencies from blood tests and with getting everything sorted I kind of felt like I was on the up and then lockdown happened so I kind of feel myself slipping back to before but really trying to not do. I also had really bad insomnia which killed me but thankfully I've sorted that.

Have you had any help since you had your baby.? X

LHMBF · 06/04/2020 20:55

It's awful isn't it, I've had people say things like snap out of it and depression isn't an illness, that you can help it and just think more positive, all of the usual ignorance. I have a perinatal mental health worker who's very nice and she's doing phonecalls now rather than visits due to lockdown. I was on an antidepressant for years and struggled to come off it, I had tapered down to a very low dose a year ago and then I stopped it when I found out I was pregnant. Been off it almost a year now. I tried to manage without anything but then the dr's prescribed me a different antidepressant. Took it for a couple of weeks but it gave me very bad diarrhoea so they changed it. But I did some research into it and have decided it's got too much of a bad reputation, I've read hundreds of bad reviews and horror stories so have stopped taking it, I'm now really poorly with withdrawal which has now been going on for 5 days and my mental health has deteriorated again. Sorry for the essay X

bluemarie87 · 06/04/2020 22:38

No worries. Was it sertraline? I went on that and it was horrendous and I tried citalopram which was awful too. I'm on mirtazipine now and I think it's been fab. I was doing cbt with my perinatal
Team but it's stopped as have the weekly visits and likewise it's a phone call a week instead. I had to have crisis team out about 10 weeks ago (feels a lifetime) and I think I've been very well supported.
Do you have a partner at home to support through this awful time? I do but he's a key worker so he's hardly ever home x

LHMBF · 06/04/2020 23:16

Sertraline was what they prescribed after my baby was born and it gave me terrible stomach upset so they switched to Venlafaxine but I read so many bad things about it so have stopped taking it, withdrawal from it is worse than the withdrawal from Paroxetine and I was on that for years. Will probably have to try another one.
That's good that you're well supported. I have a partner, he's off work for however long the lockdown lasts for.
Oh that's a shame that he's hardly home, also must be extra worrying for you with him being a key worker X

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