My mum is in a bad place with her mental health and I'm hoping to get some advice on how to help.
Since December she has been in a tailspin about my dad's health. He had to get a catheter fitted after going to A&E with acute urinary retention. There were a couple of admin errors made by the GP which delayed his referral and urology in their trust was really stretched so it was a long wait even for first appt so they decided to go private (money not an issue). Was due to have op last Friday which was cancelled not because of C19 but because his white blood cell count in his pre-op bloods was low.
Mum is now in total panic that he has leukaemia and that it won't get treated because of C19 and his age (68). This is on top of her believing he has prostate cancer despite two sets of bloodwork, an MRI and a physical exam saying otherwise.
She is terrified, sobbing daily, totally convinced that he won't even be able to get the antibiotics he needs to treat the infection which she thinks isn't an infection anyway because she thinks it's leukaemia. She says she feels abandoned, condemned, that he will never see any of us again and that she has nothing left in the tank to to fight because it's all too much. She's really falling apart.
I am 200 miles away (not that it really makes a difference at the moment, would be the same if 2 miles). I have found the details of a local therapist who looks good and will see if she is possibly doing telephone appointments at the moment.
They are active in their church and I have considered also calling the vicar who is a very nice man to see if there is anyone in the parish with any counselling experience.
I don't know what else to do. I will keep calling her obviously and my SIL is very good about same (my brother slightly less as SIL is more proactive but he does his bit in his own way). We are both trying to organise a supermarket delivery for them but that's hard to find. I'm also going to take over some of the calling medical professionals to get answers to things as much as I can.
What else can I do? Are there any other services I can try to get to help? Or other telephone/online resources? I'm really at a loss as to how to help more.