pi**ed off...

[tearful]

my dh really bugs me. And I wanted to use a much stronger word there. He's just so bad-tempered because of his stresses at work and he takes it all out on me. He just found his beloved car magazine stuck to the kitchen work surface, yes, the kitchen work surface and made such a huge deal of peeling off the stuck on pieces of paperand cursing about what muck had made the counter-top sticky. I just ignored him. I know he's stressed but I really object to it all being made into my problem. Everything i say or do stresses him. Grrrr

there's a screaming thread somewhere - go on there and let it all out!

what do I do? do a search for scream?
oh yeah, and he's also just arranged to be elsewhere on the day in december that i had booked tickets for us all to go to a show. and i'd told him but he's too stressed to remember and i'm not important enough for him to diary it

tearful, you could be be. DH is very stressed at work and finds it difficult to sleep. then he treats me as tho' it is me that has kept him awake. ggrr
i, too, just ignore him. otherwise it escaltes into an argument and i get blamed for not understanding.
keep low, wait until his mood had passed and come on here to WHINGE about him.

anyway, kitchen surfaces are made for YUCK not bloody car mags.

well, precisely. does it not really get you down though? you sound as if it just washes over you.

i do try very hard to let it wash over me but that doesn't always work. BECAUSE IT PI$$ES ME OFF. but i know that tackling it when he is 'that way out' will only make it worse. at the moment we live our lives like this monday to friday then he's his normal self Sat and Sun. we ahve had 8 months unemployment recently so i just remind him that the stress of work is still better tahn the stress of unemploymnet at least we can afford to cheer ourselves up at the weekends.
plus, maybe i do feel a little guilty that he has all the stress as i only work one day a wek and both dd and ds are at school full-time.