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Crying every night in bed

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Petiolaris · 21/03/2020 19:11

There are so many things weighing heavily on me at the moment and I’m lying in bed crying every night. I don’t know what to do.

I’m terrified that I’m going to die of coronavirus. Or DH or DS, or my parents. The little time I have left with my parents is being taken away because they need to self isolate. My Dad refuses to stop going to the shop for his daily pint of milk. He cares for my stepmum who has dementia, if he gets taken to hospital she’ll be dumped on a care system that’s more overloaded than ever and I don’t know what will happen to her. My parents are nearly 80 and because of my health they are actually trying to help me, and it’s just so wrong and I feel guilty.

When my DS was born with additional needs we agreed I’d spend two years at home and he’d cope better with nursery by age two. I was a teacher. But I can’t realistically return to work under the current circumstances! We can’t cope without me working for much longer. DS was literally just starting nursery and I was finally getting a tiny bit of independence. But now I’m back to being stuck at home for the foreseeable future. I thought it was finally approaching the end but now it’s been snatched away. I don’t even have my Mum to help any more - she came every day to help me cope with DS and now she can’t. There’s no financial help available for people who were planning to get a job but now can’t.

I’m just feeling very sorry for myself and very frightened about what’s to come. I can’t help my parents. I can’t help myself.

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LouMumsnet · 21/03/2020 22:25

@Petiolaris, we're so sorry to hear that you're struggling. Hopefully someone will be along very soon who can offer advice and support.

Take care. Flowers

MrsT1405 · 21/03/2020 22:29

Don't want to read and run . It will get better. One day at a time. Hugs

Jayfee · 21/03/2020 22:46

Pet you won't die from coronovirus. Everyone who has died was older ..much older and with underlying health problems..or had complex other medical needs. It's hard just now, but think of what you have..a lovely 2year old a partner and parents who love you. Limit the amount of coronovirus stuff you read and move forward slowly. This too will pass.

Magicklou · 21/03/2020 23:05

Totally empathise. This much uncertainty needs time to process; and having a good cry is no bad thing! You could also try some CBT strategies to help you process unhelpful thoughts each day? (Moodjuice have some good resources). A simple strategy I like is to ask yourself 3 questions: 1) what worries me generally 2) what am I worried about happening in this present moment 3) what am I excited about & looking forward to? Give it a try Smile.
FWIW I 'm in a similar place work-wise: I have had a short career break due to stress and was hoping to dip my toes in again and do some examining\supply, running some l ocal clubs & events etc. Was just starting to feel excited again after months of feeling terrible, but the world had other plans. We have to stay well, support each other and hold onto hope, because that is what we CAN do right now. Xxxxxxx

lexiepuppy · 22/03/2020 00:04

Have a good cry, it will help you release your emotions.
Then do some breathing!! Breathe in for 4 counts and then out for 4 counts.
Get a journal and write down all those worries!
Like others have said take each day as it comes, nobody knows how things will go, so just get through each day and enjoy time with your DS and DH.

If you need to self regulate, put your right hand on your heart and other hand on your stomach.

Stay safe and stay well!💐

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