I don't want to be here now my girlfriend has left me

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My girlfriend of a year and half has broken up with me . We’re only 18 and we’re each-overs first relationship/sexual partners.She broke up with me because she was no longer romantically interested in me as she never wanted to have sex , never flirted with me , she didn’t feel a spark, she didn’t feel exited during the relationship when we saw each over .But I was the complete opposite I always got exited to see her and always wanted to see her as much as possible, always wanted to have sex and I still felt a spark . She changed my whole lifestyle as before I didn’t go out with friends that much but she pushed me to do so many things and now I do go out more . i love her to bits and without her I feel as though i just don’t want to live any longer.

For a long time I’ve felt really low because Im really insecure.There has been occasions where I’ve found myself attractive but I just wish I was taller and built bigger and I just generally don’t like who I am as a person. She tried to help me with this a lot but she isn’t the most emotional or supportive person so sometimes the advice she gave wouldn’t help but she did encourage me to go to the gym etc which made me more confident for a short while when we on holiday.

I feel lost because I don’t see a future as the person who I want to have a future and thought I would marry and grow old with can’t be with me.I feel worthless as though I’m not good enough for anyone because the person I love doesn’t want to/can’t be with me so what’s the point in me even being around. I just know I’m never ever going to be happy again and even if I do get over the breakup I can never see myself being as happy as I was with my ex.I constantly feel exhausted and tired of trying to live.I feel as though there’s no point in me trying with anything in my life at all as before it was all for her so that she could be proud of me , everything I tried for was all for her as she motivated me a lot so I’ve just got no passion do to well at sixth form , get along with my family , go to work , get out of bed without her .I feel regretful and annoyed at myself because I could have done something to stop her feeling like this but I just didn’t notice but she says it’s nothing to do with me and it’s just her feelings towards me have changed.

I just really love her and can never see myself getting over this so I just don’t want to be here any longer. Please give me any advice on how I can improve how I feel because I’m at rock bottom.

So sorry to hear you’re going through this. I felt exactly the same when my first relationship ended, so distressed and like it was the end of my world. But I promise you things get better. In the meantime do you have a support network? It’s so good to talk to people. You might benefit from some counselling too if you’re feeling really low. Things WILL get better OP

I'm sorry you're feeling so low.

I know this won't help right now, but the first time you get dumped REALLY hurts and suicidal thoughts are not uncommon if you have been unhealthily enmeshed.

Can you go to either of your parents right now and say "I'm hurting and I need a hug"?

Things will be okay. You can and will get over this.

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through such heart ache. We never forget our first love, they hold a special place, even if it wasn't forever. As hard as it is, I would walk away with all the positives the relationship brought to your life. You have so many years ahead of you which will bring love and unfortunately loss but you are resilient and you can do this. Lean on the people closest to you

It look me 3 years to get over my first love (who dumped me) and the relationship only lasted 9 months!

I cried every day for months.

Now years later I look back and realise we weren't right for each other.

Time really does heal the wound, cliched but true.

I'm so sorry. There is nothing quite like the pain of a breakup, especially the first time.

I know it seems horrendous right now, like you'll never be happy again. However, I promise you won't always feel like this. The next few weeks/months will be rough, but one day you will suddenly realise that you haven't thought about her in ages. And you'll move on. You will.

My advice is block her on everything. Don't try to stay friends. It makes things ten times harder (I speak from experience here). Try and get some fresh air every day. It really does help. Ask friends/family for support. If you are having suicidal thoughts, then go to your GP/call one of the helplines. Please don't suffer in silence.

Try to talk to your family and friends, keep going to the gym if you can, just keep going because it really will get better in time. We all go through this, it’s a rite of passage for growing from a boy into a man. Not sure if 💐 are appropriate but have some anyway.

Honey, the first time is the hardest. We have all been there. It hurts and it feels like you will never feel happy again. Right now the pain is huge and the happiness is tiny. Every day, the happiness grows and the pain gets a little bit smaller until the pain becomes a little memory that you tuck into a corner of your heart. Please believe us when we say the best is still to come.

First love is the hardest because we give ourselves completely. Stay active and and try and look for some positives. There are many who never experience a relationship in their whole lives. Do not worry about hoping to be friends and do not keep checking her social media. I have a son your age and he is in the throes of his first love, I really worry about when they break up as it is so painful. I’m in my fifties I still remember crying for hours and making myself feel ill as I ate so many marshmallows.

Stay true to yourself.

Bless your heart! You are a lovely young man with years ahead of you. You won't meet many people who don't feel a sting remembering relationships breaking down at your age. We've all been there and done it. Sometimes it takes a few weeks to recover from the hurt. Sometimes a little longer. But you usually get there. There are many other people out there and your life will take you down the path that's yours.

I'm 31 nearly and happily settled with two children. I'm almost 8 years into my relationship. Between 14 and 22 I had a few different relationships. They all ended for different reasons.

The thing is you need to find the girl who loves you for who you are and wants to stay with you. Sex gets less exciting In all relationships. It's quite natural in your teens to feel it's forever. It isn't usually though. Most relationships at that age fizzle.

That said you have so much life to live. I wish I was an energetic trendy young teenager again.

Have you got your mates? What do you enjoy? Pubs? Football? Cars? Films? Gaming? Keep yourself busy with friends and family. Ask them to stay at your house etc if you feel lonely and down.

Also don't put yourself down. Believe me it's taken me until I was 28 to find my confidence. Women are attracted to men of all types. Some like tall, some like short, some like blue eyes. Personality is so important too. Being funny. BeIng kind. Being thoughtful. Being decent.

You need to take things one day at a time. You will look back on this time and think why did i get so upset.

Focus on living sweetheart! So much fun to be had. Plan a weekend away with friends. Look forward to summer. You will get there x

If only you had the power to fast forward to in a years time you would know you will be fine. I remember being your age and breaking up and feeling like it was the end of the world and life would never be the same again...I promise you you will get over this!! Try and keep busy going out with friends or exercising and before you know it it starts to hurt less and less.