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When will I feel better?

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Chocolatesuprise · 04/03/2020 15:57

I have two wonderful children and a loving husband who I care about so much.
I just don’t feel safe anyone.
A few years ago a awful parent at my children’s school (they were 4) came thumping on my front door threatening me and my family because our child was not being very nice to his.
We tried to calm the situation but he just got more angry telling us my child was manipulative and horrible and that we would regret bringing such a awful child into this world. We shut the door on this awful person and called the police because of the threats and informed the school of this persons actions. They were useless!
During the next few months this person carried on following us out of school threatening us even though they had been warned by the police.
We eventually had enough and moved our children out of the toxic environment into a new school which they have now happily been at for a few years.
I now still after more than 3 years feel so unsafe in my own home, worrying this awful person will find out where we live and come and threaten and intimidate me and my family.
Someone this horrible person knows has just started at my children’s school and keeps on glaring at me, it’s making me very nervous and dreading going out to collect my children.
I feel like I just want to close my eyes and not wake up as I am sick of feeling scared.
My husband is very supportive and has booked me into getting private counselling but I’m still not getting any better. I thought after more than nearly 3 years I would start feeling better but I just feel as scared as I was before.

OP posts:
Limensoda · 04/03/2020 16:55

Oh that's awful!...No wonder you feel unsafe.
Counselling will really help so stick with it and open up completely. There may he other reasons from your past that have also affected your reaction to this.
Just remember, that you did everything you could and you are all safe and will stay safe.

Chocolatesuprise · 04/03/2020 17:28

Thank you Limensoda.
The councillor has been delving into my past and I am starting to understand why it has affected me so much with the way I was brought up.
It’s just the feeling of waiting for something bad to happen after being threatened in somewhere which I thought I was safe. It upsets me so much as I just don’t want harm coming towards us. I feel ridiculous as it happened such a long time ago and it still plays on my mind constantly.
I know people have arguments every day but I had never had a argument with anyone ever in my life!

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Limensoda · 05/03/2020 07:51

You aren't being ridiculous. It's the only way you know how to deal with it, at the moment.
You can learn to change your thoughts. It's not easy, but counselling may help. There are other therapies like CBT, and mindfulness training which you could look into.
Medication helps some people but it's not a cure and you need something that will shift your thought patterns. Most things we worry about never happen and just because you experienced a horrible experience with a horrible man doesn't mean you aren't safe now.
You can self refer for cbt so look into it?

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