i thought I'd got it sorted and now I've just crashed over some stupid misunderstanding and i'm in tears

[numbmum]

and filled with aching
because I made an appointment with psychiatrist for next week and they wrote it down for this week and I called to confirm it was still next week and psychiatrist sounded really patronising on phone with a fake sounding apology for misunderstanding and I didn't want to talk to him anymore about re-arranging because I was getting all worked-up so he said to call back in half-hour and now I'm sitting here in tears because i don't want to talk to people who think i'm an idiot and can't even make an appointment and that's not right is it? to be in tears over something so stupid and avoiding it
and my youngest is here and I don't want her seeing this

and i don't understand why i thought htat posting here would fix it and now i'm sitting here thinking that nobody is rplying and it bothers me and i know it shouldn't but i hate this place and wnt the mn of old back

I don't really know what to say, but just wanted to reply.

Hopefully someone will come along with some good advice for you soon x

Just wanted to add, I am sure they don't think you are an idiot, it was just a misunderstanding- call them back and confirm an appointment. It sounds like you really need someone to talk to.

you were right about the appt, they were wrong, but becuase you had to ring and check, you have put yourslef in a position where, 'unrightly' the dr has got a bit defensive.

of course, now yu have taken it persoa=nally, becuase, i would, cos i know how easy it is too feel so low and lack confidence.

Are you positive you spoke to the actual person you are going to see?

TBh, if he's like this now, a bit abrupt, maybe he's not theone for you, OR when u call back yuo cuold say,

deep breath ' It was not easy for me to ring back, and have to ask about the appointments, and I thought you were a bit abrupt with me, i was checking, so as not to waste anyone's time.'

what do u think?? u may find they backtrack, and just hadn't realised they were being patronising??

Numbmum

Mistakes do happen and it doesn't mean that the psychiatrist and his team won't be any good.

Are you absolutely positive that his apology was fake sounding? Sometimes I read all sorts of meanings into other people's words and actions and it is really all about me being paranoid/not in the best frame of mind. I would have thought that the psyhciatrist would be genuinely sorry about the mix up.

And he will NOT be thinking you are an idiot. He wants you to call back in half an hour to make sure you are okay and to give you time to collect your thoughts. It is a good sign that he is doing that. A rubbish psychiatrist would have fobbed you off until the next appointment.

I don't know what your problems are at the moment but I hope that everything improves soon. Take care of yourself

im sorry your feelin this way sorry no advice just wanted to send you hugs
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hey numb, dont feel liek noone was replying, i just did my reply then the bloody server went down, so had to save my answer to my docs, then cut and paste.

got there in the end!!!!!!

I'm like you, I dread making calls to medical people and I get so worked up about it that i usually have to get my husband to do it. I have sometimes got myself into a state just about arranging a GP appointment. (I suffer with social anxiety in case you hadn't guessed!) Give yourself a big pat on the back for having the guts to call in the first place!

sorry for a completely ott reaction to something pathetic - i don't know what's going on with me i'm not like this

i called back and have arranged for a referral to a colleague at a closer location

good for you, i nkow how hard it is, to make a call, then have your worst fears confirmed.

Glad you have found someone a bit nearer, u can start over xx

Can I just add (if you're still reading) that psychiatrists can be really funny about talking to you outside of your slot (I would apologise to any psychiatrist reading, but it's my experience!!).... ?!

Whilst you're in the session you're supposed to be in, and they have their "I'm talking to Ms X" head on, they're generally fine, but if they have to talk to yououtside of that situation, my perception is that they find it very difficult lol!!

Don't know if that helps, but it's a bit like imagining someone is in the bath, it makes you realise that they have social neuroses / idiosyncracies too!!

Well done for sorting it out - ive missed many an appointment because i couldnt get up the courage to leave the house (thank goodness the bad old days are behind me now).

I really understand your feelings - at uni i was close to breaking point and rang my mum who after a very long and tearful conversation persuaded me to go to to student counsellors to make an appointment. It took all my courage to walk in there and ask for help and i was treated like i was waiting in line at the cheese counter - very brusque - 'go away and come back later'. it crushed me.

my mum now works for a psychiatrists office and makes sure she sends out very sympathetic letters if people miss appointments etc.

Just wanted to say that i know what its like, and i admire you for not letting it beat you. xxx