Who do I contact about getting help for somebody else?

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My DS's dad has bipolar. Managed with meds, no episodes for at least 5 years.

However since then it is obvious he is a shadow of his former self. Probably depressed. My son no longer wants to go to his house. It is dirty and the smell is evident when he opens the door at pick up time. Dad does cares but just sits and hardly speaks to son.

Me and DS dad get on, there is no animosity.

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I think he needs help. Not necessarily from the crisis team, but someone to do an assessment? I don't know what to do. It's just a sad situation.

It would be GP because they escalate it up to the MH team, he may have a number himself, I had the crisis team number and rang them when not strictly under them. Does he get manic? The fact that he is down and not washing etc is terrible but it’s my periods after depression that are more of an issue.

He's not had a manic phase for about 5 years. The depressive phase that followed that was really bad and culminated in an admission to a psych ward. Meds sorted after that and whilst he's been ok since, in that there's been no episodes, he's obviously depressed and has let himself and his house 'go'.

He's refused mine (and my son's) offers of cleaning. He's not bathing. I accompanied him to a hospital appointment last year (he has a tumour on his kidney) as he literally had no-one to go with him. He smelt.

My son secretly took a picture of his bath when he went round one Saturday. He showed it to me. It was awful, he mustn't have had a bath for at least 2 years. Obviously I can't speak to him about that as I shouldn't have seen that photo.

It was me who phoned the crisis team 5 years ago when he was obviously in a manic phase (I had kept their number in my phone from his previous manic phase 2 years previous to that). I still have their number. But this isn't a crisis. He doesn't see or admit he has a problem, or that he is down. My son is the only person he sees and pretty soon he's going to refuse to go.

This is still a crisis situation, he needs help x

Contact social services and GP he obviously needs some help but if you wanted it can be do without him finding out it was yourself he seems at risk .. hope you get the help needed