Please help. Desperate

[scared2020]

Hi all. I'm coping ( or not coping) with a lot right now and today my boss completely humiliated me in front of the team.

I've just had enough. I can't cope anymore. I wish I could just escape and disappear

I feel as if I have no one

I'm here 🙋🏻‍♀️

& I've felt like that before

Do you want to talk about the other things going on in your life? I'll leave the job advice to someone more qualified I would probably make it worse!

I just feel desperate. Like I have nothing and don't know what to do.

Can you think of any good things? Are you safe? Do you have financial security? Any good people in your life? I don't know if this helps but when I get in a hole I take it one day at a time. I think 'just get through tomorrow' & I don't think beyond that. It feels more manageable that way. Then gradually it gets easier.

I hope you can find some support in real life @scared2020 ❤️

Your boss humiliated you. That means he or she is an arsehole - they should be feeling shame, not you. Do not absorb the crap they have inflicted on you. Get angry - this is not your shame. Fuck them!

Look for another job. And/or complain to HR. Lift your head up. Don’t let the bastards grind you down.

You have to step out of the nasty emotions they threw at you - they have been shameful. They have failed. What happened today was their failure and you can lift yourself out of the reaction you’re having.

Hold on and let yourself resurface. Be strong. Be on your own side.

Yessss @AtrociousCircumstance I knew someone would nail it 💪🏻

Have been crying today I work

How awful!!!
I will never forget the time I kept crying on the commute to work, I'm not even a crier but I was going through the worse time.

You must be really struggling at the moment

Yes feel like I've been crying all day.
Literally couldn't regain composure in corridor in morning.
Cried end of afternoon on reading e mail.
Cried on way home.
My face is red and swollen.

Sorry you feel so low OP

Do you want to talk about what happened? Why you feel so awful?

I did manage to get angry and was going to ask to move areas but when I spoke to a snr colleague amid floods of tears he felt he wasn't usually a bully but perhaps frustrated if he wanted me to be more independent.
He did say though that saying that publicly was unfair and not right.

I've never taken time off fir anxiety or feeling low because I always struggle in. I would have to feel there is a real risk if not performing or feeling very overwhelmed to not go in. I nearly feel like I need some time off but it's hard then to think about going back etc and what would I gain from it.

Speak to HR, they have to take bullying very, very seriously.

A senior colleague has agreed it shouldn’t have been done in public.

Take this further.