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Will medication help me?

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MrsKaplan · 24/02/2020 14:32

Hello, thank you for reading. As the title suggests I am wondering whether I should pay the doctor a visit.
I have been through a pretty rough time over the last few months. I was blissfully happy in my marriage but found out that my husband has almost certainly been using prostitutes. There was a huge amount of gaslighting going on while he tried to cover his tracks. I have made him move out but I’ve found evidence of hook up sites, fake social media accounts etc. All of which he has twisted and turned to the point I’ve doubted my own sanity.
I have been seeing a counsellor for a few weeks and have finally accepted that I need to stop digging as proving I was right won’t affect the outcome - I’m divorcing him.
I don’t feel my mental health is improving though. I feel anxious all the time, I have no motivation at all. I work from home and have got so far behind that I’m just ignoring emails and phone calls. I know I’m going to get in so much trouble when my company find out my work is sliding but I just can’t face it. I’m sitting on the sofa watching crap tv all day long.
Does anyone think that maybe antidepressants and/or anxiety medication would help give me a leg out of this black pit.
Many thanks in advance if you read this far, and for any replies

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chocolateisavegetable · 24/02/2020 18:41

Can I please recommend a book to you - Depressive Illness, The Curse of the Strong by Dr Tim Cantopher. You can even find a very useful summary of the book if you Google it - and that might be enough for you. I'll summarise for you - depressive illness is a PHYSICAL illness that happens when you try to be too strong for too long. A connection in your brain has stopped working properly because it has been under so much stress. Medication can help it to heal.

MrsKaplan · 24/02/2020 19:20

Thank you for taking the time to reply to me. I will have a read of the summary on google tonight.

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Auldspinster · 24/02/2020 19:23

I took citalopram which made me feel normal again and meant that I could concentrate on therapy without firefighting anxiety and depression.

Parkmama · 24/02/2020 20:04

@chocolateisavegetable I read that book and it was very helpful in giving me the confidence I needed to take control and book the GP appointment I needed at the time. The GP will likely suggest some time off work, which you should take as it doesn't sound like you're fit to be working and your employer will support you if you're honest with them and take some proper time out, don't be afraid to do that. I started on 50mg sertraline last summer and it did take a while to work (I definitely recommend some time off work to adjust to it for the first couple of weeks if you go down this route) but after a while it made a big difference. I feel much stronger now, more motivated and out of the slump I was in. I'm very slowly tapering off the medication along with therapy. I'm sorry for what's happened to you, know that it won't feel this sh*t forever Thanks

MrsKaplan · 26/02/2020 13:16

Thank you for the replies. I had a read through the summary of the book. One thing that really resonated was that a fuse has blown, and no matter how much I want to put something in, nothing will come out. That is exactly how my brain feels!
I have made a docs appointment now and will hopefully be prescribed something to help.
The suggestion of time off work is a good one and I think I will do it. I have asked my manager if I can meet with him tomorrow so will explain the situation.
Thanks again!

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chocolateisavegetable · 26/02/2020 13:17

Well done for taking positive steps OP. Be honest with your GP. I hope it goes well x

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