Need a pick me up

[Mrskg1983]

Hi there, just looking for a bit of reassurance really. I feel really fed up lately, so much has changed in the past few years and i find it hard to see the wood for the trees. I am 36, married, witha 2yr old and one on the way. They are great, no complaints with my family. Theres just always a niggling feeling that i have missed out on what i really wanted to do in life, which is live in London. Its never going to happen now its way to expensive but i fantasise about what it would be like. To add to that i have friends but i dont flourish in a group of friends ive always preferred just one to one meet ups. I don’t particularly love meeting certain mums because i dont enjoy just talking about our kids or showing off with what they are doing. I have a busy mind and work as a nurse 2 days a week so am home a lot with my 2 yr old. We have fun but it does mean i think a lot, especially about the state of the world right now, which doesnt feel me with great hope for their future. I also feel that ive had to make big sacrifices with my career but it hasn’t affected my husband at all. But i know that he earns the most so it makes sense for him to be the main earner. I think i just feel a bit stuck and lonely really so just looking for a bit of reassurance

I didnt want to read and run, I am sorry you feel so isolated. Having a young child and being pregnant can be very tiring and draining.
From a practical point of view are you getting plenty of sleep and pre natal care?
If it is support you badly need have you spoken to mid wife or health visitors etc?
I know what you mean about mum groups if you dont feel its your thing or find it hard there may be other alternatives to find other activities for mid wife to sign post you too.
Regarding living in London, is it that you fantasise about living in a city with more going on or just London itself? Focusing on living somewhere that is never going to happen can make you feel like you are missing out. Can you not bring elements of 'London life' to where you are? If it theatre for example get involved with local theatre near to you?
If you miss your brain being more active, do a course with a creche or online around your toddler so when you return to work you feel more equipped?
If you need a break can you put your child in private childcare so uou can work/ volunteer/ study?
As for the state of the world this can cause massive anxiety and despair, so one way would be to reduce time reading or watching news reports. This personally really helped me.
People say its ignorant, but also a lot of news is over reported, sensationalised and can make the world seem a very unsafe place.
Of course there are things that happen, but its been the same from dawn of time, its just so quick to capture it now with internet etc.
Please dont struggle, you will look back on this time and it will have been over so quick.
Ask for support and enjoy your babies 💐

I didnt want to read and run, I am sorry you feel so isolated. Having a young child and being pregnant can be very tiring and draining.
From a practical point of view are you getting plenty of sleep and pre natal care?
If it is support you badly need have you spoken to mid wife or health visitors etc?
I know what you mean about mum groups if you dont feel its your thing or find it hard there may be other alternatives to find other activities for mid wife to sign post you too.
Regarding living in London, is it that you fantasise about living in a city with more going on or just London itself? Focusing on living somewhere that is never going to happen can mske you feel like you are missing out. Can you not bring elements of 'London life' to where you are? If it theatre for example get involved with local theatre near to you?
If you miss your brain being more active, do a course with a creche or online around your toddler so when you return to work you feel more equipped?
If you need a break can you put your child in private childcare so uou can work/ volunteer/ study?
As for the state of the world this can cause massive anxiety and despair, so one way would be to reduce time reading or watching news reports. This personally really helped me.
People say its ignorant, but also a lot of news is over reported, sensationalised and can make the world seem a very unsafe place.
Of course there are things that happen, but its been the same from dawn of time, its just so quick to capture it now with internet etc.
Please dont struggle, you will look back on this time and it will have been over so quick.
Ask for support and enjoy your babies 💐

Thank you xxx