Hi I'm new to this but really need to branch out to people and get some help. I'm not coping very well. I have a 2 1/2 year old little girl and a little boy who's 8 weeks old. It's not the children. Their amazing and I'm the luckiest mummy in the world to have them. Their no trouble. The baby is sleeping and feeding great my little girl loves him to pieces and helps me out so much.
I've just recovered from a csection which has been difficult in some ways just the recovery side of it and having to ask for help when I never needed it with my little girl. However because my mums been helping out so much with me and now I'm starting to go out more with people ( I don't drive yet so lots been asking to take me out to get me out the house) my mums been getting very jealous and argumentative with me. She does a lot for me so I can see where she's coming from if now on Tuesday I go out with my mother-in-law instead of just sit at home with my mum. But it's getting the point where it's getting me down. My mum and mother in law don't get along. They're friendly to each other and never have argued but they just don't bother with each other. It's either one or the other who I see. My Nanna has taken me out on some days and also friends. But I'm getting trouble off my sister for spending so much time with my mum. I'm trying to see other people but then my mums giving me trouble for not seeing her as much as I was. My partner is sick of having people here when he's home from work so I'm getting trouble for that. He wants to take me out on Saturday for food as it's near Valentine's Day but then it's who do I pick to luck after the kids. My mums great my mother and father in law are great and my Nanna all would. But then it's the argument who do I pick first. My mum wouldn't cope well on her own with them both but if I pick my in laws she will give me trouble because they've been picked first. I wish I could just flick a switch and turn my emotions off but I've got to babies to look after and entertain but no matter what I do I just feel stuck and I'm going to upset someone.
Please someone give me some advice and help me get out of this rut. It's getting me so down and not myself. I had a bad pregnancy with my little boy. We didn't even think we was going to meet him. And all I want to do is just enjoy him and my little girl and not have this worry of everyone else and how they feel if I do something.
Just feel like everyone's got control of my life