Work group chat commenting on your mood today.

[Teenagekicks21]

I'll start by saying I freely admit I am probably a crap person to around some days, I have chronic depression most days I can hide it and be happy and cheerful. Work are aware of this, I try not to be the person no one wants to sit next to, some days I hit a low and am flat quiet and I suspect, whilst not horrible, am awkward to be around. Last few days have been a bit like that. Today I was at the desk and a Colleagues phone was next to me, up flashed a group msg on the screen saver talking about me, sent by a person sat 2ft away from me. I'm a bit upset /pee'd off. I know I'm probably talked about and that's human nature but to be talked about in a work group chat that also has your boss on it and you were not ever asked to be a part of has freaked me out. When I commented was basically told to stop being paranoid and when I'm so miserable what do I expect?

They sound crap. I’d look for another job! Sorry your colleagues are so wanky!

They sound immature but you shouldn’t be looking at other people’s phones and reading their private messages!

What was the message?

That does sound crap OP, if it's a work group chat everyone should be on it, otherwise its too much like playground mean girl politics

It's bullying, isn't it, in a way? Your manager's getting on really dodgy ground belonging to a group that excludes you where you're getting bitched about.

Too little information to make a call here I think. It depends on your actual behaviour, what the message actually said, whether the reason you’re not in the group chat is nasty or because they’re actually friends and you’re not etc.
I mean, besides anything else, reading someone’s message is not good behaviour in itself.

Well what did it say? If it was Is Teen ok, she's really off today then I think you're being oversensitive. If it was Teen is a mardy cow then you've got a point.

The msg came up on the phone onto the screen saver as a pop up, I didn't touch the phone it was next to the work I was doing, but was very difficult not to read. I really don't care that people talk about me, I'm sure it is crap for them when my mood is flat, what I care about is that it is done on a group work chat. It was talking about having to work with me today and ended with 'wish me luck, lmao.'Maybe not offensive to some but was offensive to me.

See that is just unjustified bitchiness and deserves to be called out.

How do you know your boss is on the Group Chat?

Whether or not you were meant to see the message is irrelevant. The fact is you have seen it, and now their nastiness needs to be challenged.

Because it was her phone that was next to me on the desk. I don't think she had been involved in the msg'ing although I only saw that one comment, but the fact that it was in a group chat that they know she's on means she is not adverse to it. Although maybe along with the joys of feeling the world is squashing its weight on you shoulders also makes you Paranoid . Just feel crap, crap that I clearly make everyone else miserable, that low mood is never ending, crap that it's up for discussion on such an open Arena.

God that's awful what kind of company do you work for?

NHS. I genuinely do accept that it must be hard working with me sometimes, I'm like 40% genuinely happy, 40% pretending to be OK and the rest of the time struggling to stay afloat. I must be a pain in the ar#e. But through all that I still believe I do my job well (if I wasn't I'd go off sick). But I can't cope with that being discussed in a group chat.

I think that is awful. I would speak to the manager and explain that it made you feel like shit.

You are there to work and obviously have a lot to cope with personally, you dont need to add "being great craic" to the to do list.

Sending hugs x

That is an appalling way for the rest of your office to behave, being depressed does not warrant them treating you like that at all. You must say something to your boss (I know it will be hard) as this has the possibility to make you feel even worse.

If you are 60% not really ok do you need some support op? Have a look at Able Futures. It's a government scheme that can provide support, coping strategies in work, your employer do not need to know.