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Ready to give up

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Wantacookie · 08/02/2020 19:46

Today is my birthday, I am lying in bed crying, last year I did the same.
I don't know what to do, I promised myself last year I would improve things, nothing has changed. I'm still thousands of miles from home with not a single soul to talk to. Dh wouldn't understand.
I don't even know why I'm posting here, I guess to know I'm not alone.
I'm not an immediate danger to myself it's more like I can feel everything inside me shutting down piece by piece and I'm going around like a robot.

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cakeandchampagne · 08/02/2020 21:11

I’m sorry you’re having a rough time. What have you tried to change?

Flowers Happy Birthday! Cake

lexiepuppy · 09/02/2020 01:57

Happy birthday!🎂🥂

Cry and get those emotions out, go through them.
You say you are a thousand miles from home..... where's home? How come you are where you are?

What has happened to you that you are robotic?

If DH isn't supporting you is there anyone else who can?

Can you go to a G.P and get help? Or get some counselling?

I am thinking of you, and i hope you enjoyed your birthday. Flowers

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Wantacookie · 09/02/2020 07:33

I'm in my DHs home country, I moved here three years ago but still don't fit in. I've tried to make friends but as I'm not local but not a true expat I don't fit anywhere.
DH is wonderful in many ways but he doesn't understand why I find it hard, he also has a very traditional view on mental health, the whole country does.
I cant afford to see someone, my insurance wont cover it.
I'm feeling a bit better today, yesterday having to pretend to be having a great time with his family while thinking about how far I am from my own was just a bit much.

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Ces6 · 09/02/2020 08:39

I've been in hour shoes and it's tough. I think you need to make a decision. If you are intending on staying in your DH's country then you need to commit to it. Otherwise it's torture!

lexiepuppy · 10/02/2020 10:16

Have you got some hobbies where you might strike up friendships?Id persevere with the expats if you can.

Can you speak the language of this country?

Or you could just focus on yourself and not be so harsh. Go out and have coffee by yourself and enjoy some swimming/ activity of your choice.

These people have good relationship advice on YouTube:
Susan Winter
Marisa peer
Matthew Hussey

I hope you are doing okay.💐

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