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Conceived through rape

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Henryloveseatinglego · 23/01/2020 17:14

I found out a few years ago I was conceived through rape and I've tried to forget all about it .
Thinking it was nothing to do with me I keep telling myself and it had nothing to do with me has been my main way of getting my head around it .

I was always shipped off to relatives in my younger life and don't remember much about my childhood other than it seeming normal at the time .
It explained a lot by the way I was treated in my younger years and left to my own devices very little contact or support with my parents growing up and they always pushed me away until I thought what's the point in having parents . I had nothing to do with them for years and now they are getting older they are back in touch telling me both sides of the story .
I don't really want to know or takes sides they stayed and were force together just to keep up appearances and give me a happy childhood but it was never a happy at home and would have preferred to have not known .

I've always thought a few pieces of the jigsaw were missing and now I have them do I finish it or just throw it away or put it back on top of the wardrobe and forget about it and just walkaway from them all .

They are seeking approval and probably forgiveness from me for the way they acted whilst both still playing each other against each other .
I'm the only one who has heard both sides and its not something I want to share with my sisters .

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lexiepuppy · 24/01/2020 01:39

This must be so incredibly difficult for you and i imagine it must bring up a lot of conflicting feelings.

One thing is right, this was nothing to do with you, you did not ask for Things to happen this way, you were innocent.

I think you need some counselling to unravel all of this.

My guess is that you are suffering from Complex PTSD which is brought on by a traumatic childhood.

There is a good book called :from Surviving to Thriving Complex PTSD by Pete Walker .

My personal philosophy is that we are put on this earth to Love and to Learn.
People are put in our path to either love us or for us to Learn lessons from, whether they are good or bad lessons.

Stay strong. Flowers

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