Hi, I've done a nc so I can rant without it being linked back to my previous posting history.
In (large) nutshell, I come from a family very affected by autism and mental health issues.
My son had two long periods of nearly a year in mh wards as a minor and wasn't usually in a good place inbetween. He was diagnosied in GOSH as having Asperger's syndrome, GAD and an executive functioning disorder
As a young adult he had difficulties again and was sectioned. His discharge was not followed through very well and he returned home to his college city without support.
On a visit shortly after his father, my husband, was visiting and he could not wake our son in the morning. He was dead of an accidental cocktail of precription and recreactional drugs.
My husband was very clearly autistic and very ill with heart and lung condidtions and spinal problems that had him in a lot of pain.
Well, we moved, partly to get away from the memories of our old home, but my husband died in his bed of a heart attack two weeks after we moved.
Now I am not in a great place myself, mental healthwise, and have just discovered that my brother is in deep trouble. He lives about an hour's drive from me know. He's autistic too. He ignores problems and doesn't open mail. I've rescued him before, whilst supporting my son and husband. Got him an advocate, an assessment and help from Social Services, phoned courts and utility providers to keep his supplies going, negotiated budget repayments for him. All in another town to where I lived.
Now a mutual friend has messaged me - She's been involved and opening his letters, trying to get support for him, but can do no more. He has a CCJ against him and more building up. No money at all and using a foodbank. So I've arranged for a food delivery from Sainsbury's, spoken to SS on his behalf and messaged someone from CAB who is meant to be sorting an advocate for him and helping him with UC and PIP claims.
The trouble is, I'm so angry with him and it's not his fault. He's autistic, possibly bi polar, got PTSD from childhood abuse and he can't cope. I just don't want to take on his neediness when I am so not in a good state myself. I refuse to bail him out financially - it would do him no favours long term and he already owes me thousands.
I need to come somewhere and get it all off my chest. Thanks for reading, if anyone did.