Life is a war?

[IvyBush123]

Sorry, just ranting. Sorry if this thread offends anybody.
Dh has ptsd but he is already mich better.

Sometimes he says that life (I mean normal civvies street life, going shopping or to a restaurant, working that kind of stuff) sometimes feels like a war to him. Like all seems quiet and peaceful but it is only the quiet before the storm and disaster is only one heartbeat away.

Just read somebody at an online support board voice the same sentiment, say the same thing. Ex mil like him it seems. I think it is common to feel that way but might be wrong.

We have a trigger in our house. I mean a thing that triggers his ptsd. I accidentally bought it. Dh treats it as if it was dangerous. Seeing him that stressed makes me feel uneasy - stressed and a bit like waiting for something bad to happen.
I am typically not a gloomy person but right now I am feeling down and stressed.

So today I was just waiting for someone come and tell me something comforting which is idiotic because my life is actually not that bad and the trigger (it is a can of energy drink) is not really dangerous and I know this. Even he knows this.
But this feeling sucks. Can anyone relate?

Sorry op for both you and your H. My late H was in the forces and was on active duty in Northern Ireland during the Troubles.

Quite honestly, if a can of energy drink triggers him off, can you agree to not have it in the house until he is feeling stronger? I am assuming that he's having treatment.

Do you have dc together? It's really important to let kids know that they are not responsible for their parents feelings.

He still not able to throw the drink out?

It isn't fair you're walking on eggshells too.

It’s a long story. Basically I did not know that this was a trigger when I bought it. I has no problem with energy drinks of another kind. The kind he prefers was sold out, so I bought some others. I had no idea it would trigger him.
However I am not sure if I can throw it away. He had the habit of making others throw his triggers away from him. His therapist told him she does not want him to do this. IF he wants to throw his triggers away he must do it himself. I am thinking about throwing it away. I even started a thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3795044-PTSD-should-we-listen-to-his-therapist
It’s complicated.

Yes, we do have children. I hope that they have no idea how he feels like about this trigger. Wee planned to them that daddy has Stress sometimes and that it has nothing to do with them.

He doesn’t have angry outbursts. A lot of times he is okay and when he is triggered he feels a mixture of anxious and disgusted, feels like he has to wash his hands all of the time.

@ohwheniknow No - he is stressed by the idea of having to touch it. He wants to do it the next day... and then the day after that and so on and so on.