How do I decide wether to ask for AD's or not ??

[nutcracker]

Am off to the docs tommorow (hopefully), and trying to decide wether to ask for ad's or not.

I really don't know.

I think that somtimes I am depressed, and that is normally always to do with xp, and I kinda feel like I don't wanna give him the satisfaction of knowing he is making me feel shite, but the fct is that these past few weeks he has made me feel very ill and anxious.

I feel very run down, and look it too, my hair and skin are so dry and awful just now andI look permanently tired.

However I also think that the holidays always make me struggle, and maybe I will feel better when the kids are back at school, although the first few days are going to be tough because of what has happended recently with xp.

I know my gp will ultimatly make it my desicion and I am just not sure.

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Going to start tea so may not read replies until later.

Just tell the GP how you have been feeling and they'll advise you. If they advise ADs you don't have to tell your xp anything about it. Good luck

Thanks

I'm just not sure wether I should have them now, or wait and see how I go once the kids are back at school.

I'm going to ask for AD's on Friday. A different doctor to my usual GP since the first time around my GP basically said that "since I was still smiling I couldn't really be depressed".

..he obviously hadn't heard of "keeping up facades...

Fingers crossed for you!

Just go to the GP & explain exactually how you're feeling. He/she may or may not prescribe AD's, but will hopefully be of some help to you.

I went to my GP a couple of times with stress, and was put down for more counselling sessions, and prescribed a low dose AD to help me sleep.

Good luck.

Oh thats no good Michaelad, can you see someone else ??

My gp is well a bit weird, and it kind of depends on what mood she is in as to how succesful the appointments are.

I have seen her about depression before, but we both agreed that I'd see how I went and things worked out ok in the end as we moved house and my life got better.

Problem is, this time there isn't really anything that can happen that will fix me.

I know that I too am putting a false smile on nearly every day, which obviously isn't right.

I am worried I will feel worse before I feel better though even on the ad's and that scares me.

Oh and I can't go tommorow now, as xp can't have the kids as agreed

Exercise - especially outdoors - is supposed to be as effective as ADs on mild depression...would that be an option?

Also a home beauty spa session, and more "me" time, healthy eating plan?

What are the latest antics of your ex?

Erm, not even sure how to start to answer your question Idreamofdaleks LOL

Basically he is now invloved with a now ex friend of mine. Has been coming over here to visit her and her dc and go out with them and ignoring the fact that his own kids were 2 min down the road. They both tried to keep it a secret from me, and neither considered how my kids would feel about it. Her eldest and my middle child are in the same class, so how he thought I wouldn't find out I don't know, but anyway, thats that.

I have found the whole situation very stressful, and it has kind of tipped me over the edge I was balancing on.

I am going to have alot of time to myself from next week, as my youngest starts school. Exercise isn't really my thing, but I will try and make myself do something for me.

You sound so like me with putting off asking for help and waiting until such and such happens to see if you feel better. With me it was "i'll be better when i leave work" then " i'll be better whe she's older" " I'll feel better if I could ...lose weight...get fit...make some friends etc etc" In the end i had to accept that whatever was going to happen in the future I needed help today and thats when i went to the GP and he put me on ADs.

Good luck for tomorrow. Let us know how you get on.

20 or 30 mins walking outdoors in sunlight/daylight should make a difference...

can you make some time to give yourself a pedicure/ other beauty treatments, de-clutter the house, do something you enjoy eg read a mag/ book, knitting, cooking, whtever it is that you enjoy. Have 30 mins rest after lunch on your bed, not doing anything at all. See or talk to some people who make you feel good. These things help me

B*** to your ex by the way, what an ar$$$e, and as for your friend, no wonder things have been tough

Are you sure you don't have anaemia or anything?

I know its easy for me to say, but be strong nutcracker I went to the docs earlier in the year as I had constant headaches. I ended up spending the entire time crying my eyes out (totally out of the blue) and ended up on AD's. I was on them for 2 months and my mood swings just seemed to get worse (after the initial few days). I took myself off them (and the pill) and it was like a weight being lifted. I think you should wait till the kids are at school. Try and start afresh - with your appearance and tiredness. Take a stand and refuse to let people bring you down. I hope all goes well for you.

nutty
I know the others mean well but from your post today and others i have read on the past i would say that you have tried but you aren't getting better. Don't feel bad about taking ADs if the GP prescibes them this time. You may well feel worse to start with but that usually passes within 14 days. Ads give the that little extra you need to do all the other stuff that will make your life better. I am so glad that i took the plunge and went on them. I don't need them anymore and haven't done for 4 years now.

You could be right Dusty, I might be just putting off the inevitable.

Not sure about anemaic, but my mum does want me to get my thyroid checked, so I might mention that too.

Can't afford any beauty treatments, but will try and take some time to treat myself to at home beauty stuff, as I do feel a bit of a wreck tbh lol.

BTW - I take them 20mg per day and they are a godsend.

Hope you get sorted xx

I work in this area and so know that G.P's are now advised to try "talking therapies" before they prescribe antidepressants. He should ask you about your appetite, sleep, if you are having any thoughts of self harm etc before he makes a decision as to whether he feels you are depressed or not. He should offer you counselling or psychotherapy first, but of course it is your choice whether you take it. Good luck. Sorry you are feeling so bad.

I wouldn't say inevitable nutty. You could struggle on for years and maybe things would get better in time , maybe they wouldn't. Its just that you've been feeling like this on and off for a while now and it doesn't need to be this hard.

nutty your life is so stressful atm, that it would be no shame if you needed ad's and/or counselling. However I also wonder whether you aren't physically drained by your stomach cramps etc which you seem to really suffer with and not sleeping well. Perhaps also ask if he would refer you to get that looked into as you can't hope to deal with the stress if you are physically run down each month. Does your mum have thyroid problems or is that a shot in the dark ? @ exp

Sorry was watching Greys Anatomy

Have completely forgotten what I was goong to post now.....that will be the wine lol

Anyway, I do want to feel better, I am so sick of wakihng up and dreading the day ahead, but, I am not sure ad's can fix that. I mean you have to have a reason to get out of bed don't you, and I know I have the kids, but other than them there is nothing.

Oh thyroid probs run in my family on both sides.

The stomach cramps to drain me yep definatly, and I am definatly ging to speak to the gp about those.

Well if you ask for ADs you won't be able to drink wine Nutty. A good friend has just gone on them and is finding the wine withdrawal awful.

OMG really ?? that is awful, can't have them then lol

UCM - never been told you can't drink wine on ADs and have been on them 2 years?

I do get bad headaches after alcohol so tend to avoid but GP has never said I shouldn't and instructions to not mention either.