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Health anxiety at peak again

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Bobsandbitz · 12/01/2020 18:17

Don’t know why I’m posting on here, looking for someone to talk to I suppose. My HA started after a gallbladder operation a couple of years ago. Before that, I never had these worries, and any aches or pains I would dismiss and put to the back of my mind as any other normal person. After the operation, I had to stay in hospital a bit longer, and all I could think of was how my colleague, similar age to me, had died a couple of months before, when following a fairly routine operation, the doctors discovered a rare type of cancer. She had another operation, but sadly passed away not long after. Young kids and family left behind... it makes me well up just thinking about it! Add to that, my gran died (at a very good age-90, from just being old) and my uncle. So with my gallbladder problems and death happening to people I knew, I just found it all too much an became absolutely obsessed about over analysing every pain, symptom, etc. Just being absolutely paranoid about having some sort of a cancer. Thinking about it, I’ve self diagnosed with symptoms for pancreatic, throat, lung, bowel, colon and other types. The rational me is thinking - well, that’s the thing, 99.9% time any symptoms are just curable illnesses. Rarely, they might find something more sinister. I had therapy, hypnotherapy and antidepressants. It worked for a bit, but after Christmas, it has come back. I suppose I was being idle at home, and had time to pay attention to that back ache, tummy ache....
I have symptoms, all sorts, but nothing solid - back ache that comes and goes, sometimes stabbing chest pain through to the back. Had it this afternoon after a big Sunday lunch. I did my back i after giving birth, so my back has never been the same after that. Sore tummy, but not all the time, not even every day or week, seems to come and go, with weeks or even months in between. Cramps in my stomach, but again, not all the time, have weeks of nothing, then a couple of days of constipation and sore tummy. Was feeling bilious last night, never have before, not for a long time. Tight and heavy chest pain. Painful ribs, sometimes. Was diagnosed with Tietzes syndrome before, but it’s manageable and seems to have gone away. Stabbing pain here there everywhere.... All of the above mentioned symptoms come and go. I have weeks of good healthy feeling of nothing major hurting. Then something happens, one pain triggers another and I go into a complete meltdown!!! I wonder if most of the follow on symptoms are due to stress and anxiety peaking. I did once have a full on panic attack in a supermarket. Head dizzy. Heart pounding. I always thought panic attack would be hyperventilating but mine was the opposite. The world just froze around me, head fuzzy, blurry vision, and I feel it like I was not in charge of my body. I thought I was dying!
I feel idiotic. I’ve been back and forth to doctors before without having any real symptoms to explain apart from breaking down in tears saying I think I have health anxiety. But then part of me is thinking - is that me self diagnosing myself again?? Was even thinking of buying one of those full body scans to check if everything is healthy, but I’m scared to do it in case something is wrong. I do apologise if anyone here has gone through real health issues, I don’t mean to be disrespectful as I understand I am lucky to always have been in fairly good health and probably don’t appreciate the worries some people have had with their health. Last year was good, I changed jobs, as was miserable in my old job, and it really helped. Keeping busy made me completely forget about overthinking my symptoms. The cold weather seems to make it worse too.
I have a doctors appointment tomorrow to check my piles. While there, I might go through the list of other worries and maybe ask to be put back on antidepressants. They seemed to help, if still get random pains here and there, but was able to think through it and not dwell on the C word. All I want to do is cry. My girl is a total mummy’s girl, and I get tears in my eyes even thinking about not being around for her or being unable to look after her and see her grow up.
Sorry for rambling on. Just feeling lonely as I don’t think I can talk to anyone about this, I feel so stupid. My mind is racing, one minute I feel positive, other I’m fearing about my back ache and stabbing pain in the chest. When that goes, and it always does go, I’m back infesting about sore tummy and wondering if everything is normal in my colon etc. When that goes, I worry about the pesky cough that seems to have lingered for weeks. If that stops, I start investigating my moles. You get the gist. Just talking about it makes me feeling irrational - I seem to be super tuned to every ache and pain and overanalyse it all and get myself in a tizz. Just want to change and be rational and happy again!

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Bobsandbitz · 12/01/2020 18:40

I guess the other problem is because of my HA, I get scared of checking things with the doctor, in case it is something dreadful that can't be cured/managed. It's a vicious circle. I want to be reassured, but I'm scared of hospitals, tests, etc.
I know we're all in the same boat and nobody can reassure me that I won't die. I will one day, of course I know that. But at the age of 35, I'd like to get my healthy head back on, so I can live happy and not fret that there's some terrible illness lurking in my body.... I wonder if post natal depression and my daughter being so clingy/ me having such a close relationship with her in a way the cause of this? I so want to be around to see her grow up....

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Caramel78 · 12/01/2020 18:49

I feel your pain as I have suffered with terrible health anxiety to the point it was ruining my life. I still have it but it’s nowhere near as bad. I no longer google anything to do with my symptoms. That was so hard at the start as I was literally addicted to researching every little niggle I felt online. It took a few weeks but I no longer ever do it anymore which has massively reduced my stress levels (which in turn has reduced my symptoms).

Would it be helpful to book a dr appointment and write a list of all the things you are worrying about to do with your health? Get them to check everything on that list and do a full range of blood tests etc. If they think there is nothing wrong with you in their professional opinion then try your absolute hardest to trust what they are saying (they see hundreds of people every year who really DO have those things wrong with them and they are medically trained to spot anything that might be wrong).

Keep yourself busy when you’re at home too so you’re distracted from your thoughts. Put your phone on the other side of the room when you’re watching TV or reading a book and try and really focus on that instead.

If it keeps getting worse then there would be no shame in asking for counselling and medication.

Good luck x

Bobsandbitz · 12/01/2020 20:00

Thank you Caramel78. You don't know how much it means to me to hear that someone understands and doesn't say I'm just being silly. Of course, I probably am, but it is a real fear and worry and a terrible thing to live in constant fear!!
I was just thinking the same, I will write down a list of things for my appointment tomorrow. Like you say - get doctors opinion on what should be checked and if that doesn't ease my mind, might ask to be put back on antidepressants and do more hypnotherapy. Hypnotherapy really worked for me, but sadly didn't cure it completely. Maybe I need to accept that it's something I need to manage regularly and react before it peaks again like this time.
Thank you so much for your reply, I cried a bit reading it, but feeling a little bit better already, not feeling so alone. X

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Annelena · 12/01/2020 21:05

Reading your words sounds so familiar to me , I have had HA for around 4 years I think the trigger was I watched my aunt die a painful death by brain tumour , I was the only person with her when she died it was horrific the docs diagnosed me with PTSD then quickly changed there mind to health anxiety when I was booking app with them everyday for 2 weeks convinced I had a brain tumour, I needed reassurance from the gp and constantly questioned myself and the docs, what if I missed something? What if the docs missed something? I had all the usual symptoms heart racing, pain in chest , pins and needles down my arm, I took myself to ANE thinking I was having an heart attack, it was a panic attack, I went back to the docs who referred me for CBT , it really helped and I thought I was on the right path I even got pregnant with my 2 nd child, then boom 15days before my baby was born my mum died ! She had cancer for 5 years and told nobody ! We didn't know until she died, it sent me right back, I'm over the brain tumour I've a new illness I'm petrified of choking! I choked yest on my tea , I got it up myself and in theory I'm ok but it sent me into a massive panic attack that I'm still having, I've not eaten since yest for the fear of choking I'm also aware of other body symptoms and as well as choking I've convinced myself I have MND , I'm sorry your going through the same but it's nice to hear I'm not alone and I would love to talk to people in the same situation as me and help eachother , it really is the worse thing xx

Bobsandbitz · 12/01/2020 22:23

@Annelena thank you for your reply. I can relate to you, and your response means a lot. Sorry to hear about your loss, but I know what you mean, it sets you back. I wish I could deal with grief and not draw any parralels. I think when my colleague died, that shocked me. Before that, nobody I knew closely had died of cancer, so it hit home - so it does happen to people, its not just a thing you hear someone else go through.... then my gran shortly after, although she had a long and good life, just was old and frail. I think I was still going through post natal depression, and didn't grieve it properly too, and was diagnosed with my gallbladder problems, but now adding the two together.... it must have triggered something. It's been two years. Just over two, actually. I've read self help books. Helped a bit. Was on antidepressants, which helped, but not entirely. Had therapy and hypnotherapy, both helped, but didn't last.
Apart from this, I am a very rational person. I have a good job and nobody knows about my anxiety or the level of how severe it is, not even my husband. I feel embarrassed to talk about it, I just have a hot bath on my own and have a little cry in the evenings. Stupid, I know!
I have my appointment with doctors tomorrow, had it booked for weeks, as keep getting piles ( sorry, TMI, the joys of post pregnancy life!!!). I've done what Caramel78 suggested, written a list of things that worry me. Surprisingly, just doing that calmed me down. Thinking back, none of the symptoms have got any worse over the last two years of rambling on about pains here there and everywhere.... that must be good, right? Sorry, self diagnosing again!!!!
I'm hoping tomorrow brings some relief and peace. I must face the problem head on. If they send me for tests, take them. And hope for the best. Might look at booking more sessions with the hypnotherapist, but hard to find time for that, as I work full time, and I'm a mum outside my full time paid job.... so no time for myself apart from the evenings, but it's not like I can nip out and leave a 3 year old.
Have you tried antidepressants? I was totally against them, but my husband suggested I ask for some as he suspected I had post natal depression too. It did help, but I was reluctant to stay on them for too long, so stopped using them gradually after about 10 months. That was back in June- so a bit late for setback due to stopping using these? I was so embarrassed about having to even say it to the doctors and ask for help. I've always been very much a rational, "has it all together", sensible person to the outside world. Very few know the real me, and my HA struggle is something I've mentioned to people, but never really gone into the full detail as I feel ashamed and stupid to be feeling like this. I'd mention it in hope someone would say - I know how you feel, but so far nobody has, so I just stop. It's very lonely. I don't have many close friends anyway, my mum lives far from me, and is a total hypochondriac which doesn't help!!! I'd say -I'm having this pain here, and she'd say - well, go to the doctors, ask for a blood test, ask for this, try this. She'd start asking her doctor friends, forward articles and send me in a real spin. So I've told her before I don't want to talk about it to her as I know she means well, but she's not helping.
The fear of being judged and living in constant worry and fear is just.... bleugh!!!

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Mumma1984 · 13/01/2020 03:34

I too have terrible HA, it's awful and has stopped me doing so many things, I've been through worrying about loads of cancers, hiv, but my biggest one is MS ... it's a constant worry at the back of my mind and I constantly think about it - it's the worst feeling. I've had symptoms I align with it but the doc says no and 7 years ago sent me to a neuro to calm me down who also said no and again to calm me down asked if I wanted a scan to which of course I said yes. Most peoples worry goes away then with a clear scan but mine stayed and I'm still worrying everyday! I've tried CBT and meds and nothin helps!

Annelena · 13/01/2020 08:27

I've had anti depressants yes and now I'm on amitryptoline which is an old fashioned anti depressant but mainly used for nerve pain, I have electric shock pains in my head which didn't help with the brain tumour theory I had ! Apparently though it's just stress related, my doc said I can increase my pills if I feel I need to but I'm worried I won't hear my baby waking up in the morning as these pills really knock me out. I've had cbt that did help but was nearly 3 years ago could maybe do with a booster and I've often thought about hypnosis. Please speak to your husband I felt so much better speaking to mine , he doesn't understand completely but he can tell when I'm having an attack and just be there for me or make suggestions like go get some fresh air or just reminds me that it's a panic attack and I'm not dying ! Xx

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