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Pregnancy health struggles.

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DarthPixie · 06/01/2020 16:22

Hello to all fellow mother's. I am pregnant with my second child, which is a girl. My first is also a girl and she's coming up to 3 years of age. 😬
I am due beginning of May and it's been such a looooong pregnancy already.... I knew before I found out with a pregnancy test that I was pregnant. I had infection after infection, once that settled, I missed my period and did a test, which came back that I'm pregnant..not to my surprise, I was a bit like, oh no we've got to do this all again 😩but my partner was excited! 😆
Not long after we found out I was pregnant I had the flu 🤧😷🤒🤕 along side severe morning sickness, enhanced sense of smell, gag reflexes were terrible, headaches, nothing tasted nice. I couldn't eat or drink without throwing up. After two weeks of the flu, I had a few days where I felt ok besides the typical pregnancy symptoms then I had a viral infection which lasted another two weeks. It was honestly the worst 3 months of my life. Nothing got better. When we had our scan, I was excited but wasn't at the same time because I just felt so I'll. I struggled to look after myself let alone my toddler. I did it mind, I don't know how but I did it, with lots of crying and lots of "I can't do it anymore, I'm so exhausted". With support off my partner, I could see on his face he didn't know what to do other than comfort me and help me before he left to go to work...which, let's face it ladies...it's hard when they leave when you're not I'll. Let alone when you're I'll and struggling. We don't have much family support, we are solely on our own, so we just get on with it.
About a month after the first scan, very slowly, the symptoms started to settle one by one. I am now in my second trimester, 23 weeks exactly.
I am managing the fact I need to eat every 2 hours otherwise im VERY grouchy🙄, faint, feel sick. I keep my sugar levels up with 1 can of coke that I sip throughout the day, which does help.
I have sciatica down my left leg, my legs cramp up at night, what is sleep when all I do is toss and turn all night because I'm not comfortable, back ache is a pain, swollen feet, out of breath quick, tiredness, can't stand long without going dizzy... And I currently have a cold. So I have all the cold symptoms too.
I keep thinking to myself, just four months left to go.... And I'm going to be much heavier with probably more problems added to the list😩
I'm really trying to see light of the pregnancy but it is really hard. My partner said he would like another child.... I just look at him like 🤨 it's alright for you, all you do is plant the seed and I'm left like this. No fricking way. 🤣 #humour

I also feel bad because I haven't been able to go out with my daughter much and be as active as I once was before I got pregnant. Shes got lots of toys to play with etc. I just feel bad. 😫

I also feel bad because there are plenty of mum's out there who can't have children and I'm moaning because I am experiencing all of this that they wish to desire. I am so sorry 💜

Any other mums who are just as I'll or maybe worse that they wish to share there experiences with me, would like to not feel like the only person who is... Much love x

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AnxiousandExcited · 07/01/2020 22:44

I know what you feel like - been there myself, obviously I have a slightly different story but similar. I'm now 31 weeks through an extremely challenging pregnancy, i have two sons aged 4 and 3 and now pregnant with another boy!
Please speak properly to your midwife. They have so much support they can give you and you want to try and avoid PND (which can hit in pregnancy too) or get through it if you already have it!
You are a good mother I'm sure and your DD will survive not having all that attention. Children are very resilient.
There are lots of us out there going through this sort of stuff - people tend not to talk about the really tough pregnancies but they do happen. All mine have been this way and frankly though I always thought I'd have a large family I'm not so sure anymore.
Hang in there!

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