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Struggling with feelings returning I’m just not good enough.

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Theodoreb · 05/01/2020 21:55

My feelings have returned after being unemotional in a schizophrenic bad patch now my bipolar depression seems to be back I feel low I don’t want to take care of myself stopped bathing brushing my hair, want to sleep all the time constantly anxious and paranoid that I’m not doing enough as a mum, that I don’t do enough activities cus I don’t like going out other than to cinema twice a month and restaurant once a week feel like I should do more with my dc but we do inside things a lot we play monopoly once a week and cluedo once a week. We always have meal times at the table together as a family, just feel like I need to go out more with dc. But honestly I really struggle with it not only do I have mental health problems but I have 3 dc with SN and I don’t have a DP a and their dad has only had them one night in the last 3 months. We go on numerous holidays as I love going out on holiday so last year we went to Alton towers 4 times Butlin’s 2 times and Disneyland paris.

I’m trying my best just feel like it’s never ever going to be good enough. I’m anxious at nightie are the doors locked is the cooker off. I worry that I’m just not good enough. The house is always messy no matter how much I clean, wish I were good enough and right now even though I know it’s not really my fault can’t help wondering if I did something wrong to dc to cause DS ADHD DD1 ASD and DD2 epilepsy wondering if it was because I was manic through all three pregnancies did it damage them in some way I don’t know.

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rumred · 06/01/2020 08:53

Hello @Theodoreb you sound very distressed. Have you got any friends you can confide in?
Also sounds like counselling /therapy would be good for you at the moment so you can express your anxieties and get some support and feedback

Theodoreb · 06/01/2020 19:01

@rumred thank you for reply I have many friends but I don’t confide in them as I am always too paranoid that if I tell them I am struggling they will report me to social services. I have had the maximum amount of therapy I can have I have coping mechanisms just sometimes go through rough patches.

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rumred · 08/01/2020 11:09

@Theodoreb hope you are coping.
What makes you feel better?

Theodoreb · 08/01/2020 12:14

A lot of music I am not often seen without music playing, I meditate and even do it when I’m sat up friends they are used to it, I have strict patterns for example always use the same cutlery and cups and plates, lock up in a specific order.

When I feel down I sleep more as for some reason sleep help regulates my hormones amazingly. I go out once a week and completely let loose, forget all my problems for one night probably not a healthy coping mechanism but I drink a lot one night a week to make my brain shut off and Wake up the next morning feeling refreshed.

I have prn diazepam got 48 a month and prn zopiclone get 4 a week which helps greatly.

If I can get the motivation to clean once my house is clean I am a lot happier.

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rumred · 10/01/2020 17:28

Hiya @Theodoreb how are you doing?
Motivation is a big problem with me too at the moment. Have you managed to clean the house? If so please give me tips

Theodoreb · 10/01/2020 23:59

@rumred tbh motivation severely lacking and as I have a broken foot although I feel guilty kids have had to help out more this week was hobbling round doing it myself but ended up in hospital from walking on it too much so kids helping out more now.

Motivation hardest thing ever.

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