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Mental Health is taking over my life

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Lunacake · 04/01/2020 19:55

Hi everyone. I really don’t know where else to express my feelings so here goes..

I’ve always had problems with my mental health. As a child I was withdrawn, and had what I now realise was social anxiety. During my teens everything got worse. I became reclusive, rarely leaving my room, started drinking, constantly anxious. Alcohol numbed everything to me. Every weekend I would go out and party. When nobody would go out I would drink in my room until 5am.

Everything spiralled out of control when I met my ex. His mother was emotionally abusive to me. Constantly putting me down, saying I wasn’t good enough for him. I ended up suicidal and self harmed. I finally opened up to my mother and told her everything that was going on mentally.

I was put on medication which made me worse. I felt like I was watching my life from the bottom of a pit. I didn’t feel in control of my body. It all came to a head when I tried to kill myself by overdosing. After that my medication got changed and I got a new job. Things started looking great. I left my abusive relationship, and met someone new.

Years later I’m now a mother to a wonderful daughter, I left my job to take care of her. Everything’s been going great until recently.

I feel like my anxiety has returned. For a year now I’ve been unable to leave the house alone. I feel like something will happen to me whenever I leave the house, getting attacked etc. I’ve started getting psychical symptoms of anxiety: not sleeping, racing heart, lethargic. I feel like I’m not in control of my life. I’ve started to have constant irrational fear. It’s effecting my relationship too.

I believe I know why I’ve always had mental health problems. I’ve never opened up to anyone about an event that happened in my childhood, and the abuse I experienced. I’ve only started to think about it recently, and I’ve always kept it buried inside.

I don’t know what to do. I’m frightened of returning to the doctor. I don’t know who to turn to..

OP posts:
Monstermoomin · 05/01/2020 11:05

Hello, it sounds like you have been having a very difficult time and keeping it all bottled up must've been hard.

I think it's important you reach out for help. Thus doesn't mean you have to speak to someone about the abuse you went through as no one can force you and that's something you need to feel ready for. But it sounds like it might be good to get support around the anxiety you are experiencing as it is affecting your daily life.

lexiepuppy · 05/01/2020 19:13

Hello. It sounds like you are suffering from Complex Ptsd. This is from having a traumatic childhood.

There is a book called :from surviving to thriving Complex Ptsd .
I forget who it is by, you can get it cheap on eBay.

Also look at Complex Ptsd videos on YouTube. Richard Grannon is good.

You will need a good counsellor to help you through the trauma of your childhood.

Just take one day at a time, be gentle and loving with yourself and try not to get overwhelmed.💐

Winter2019 · 05/01/2020 19:16

Well done for turning your life around! You did it and you can do it again! I also suffer from mental health problems on and off and it's terrifying when it comes back.

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