Ex DH is deep in paranoid psychosis what can I do ?

[Winona45]

Seperated from Ex DH in June this year.
He had become increasingly paranoid, people were trying to poison him, kill him , were watching him etc. He was agitated and afraid. Wasn sleeping, kept an axe by him at all times etc etc.
He didnt eat and smoked weed all day.
I asked him to leave as I have DC and it wasnt safe for them.

Initially he agreed to see a Psychatrist and after 2 months we managed to get him to speak to someone, but the paranoia was never adressed directly it was just chat but the Psyciatrist did confirm to us that he was having a paranoid psychotic episode.
After 2 sessions he refused to go again and now 6 months later nothing has changed. He isnt on medication and is just sitting in his mothers house, angry, afraid and refusing to leave.
He is also still smoking weed.

What on earth can we do to get him help ?
Although my relationship with him is over my children are obviously concerned for him and honestly at this rate I cannot see him EVER improving while no one is helping.
The GP does not care and unless he is a threat to himself or others no one will come out to see him.
What can i do ???

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Could you contact Mind to ask for advice? Is he under the CMHT? I would raise your concerns with his psychiatrist too.

Hi I suffer paranoid psychotic episodes. I know this isn’t what you want to hear but imo the only way to get a psychotic person to start taking responsibility and taking medications which can be very hard to tolerate is when the patients standard of life drops so low that they feel like they cannot cope anymore. You absolutely did the right thing in kicking him out as if you were there caring for him you would have been enabling him to continue living like this. He needs to feel the pain before he will actively chose to get help and until he chooses nothing is going to make him get help. A nicer alternative is to wait until current episode has finished and then try talking to him.

If you do talk to him I would say don’t force eye contact it’s is threatening to a psychotic person. Don’t try to tell him anything he sears hears or believes is not true as this will result in anger but also don’t confirm his beliefs instead tell him I know this is real for you or I believe you can see this but I cannot sorry.

Sorry that’s about the best advice I can give just find that it’s extremely difficult to force a psychotic person to get help. IME it just wont work I think you have done the best thing possible for him and when he is through this perhaps speak to him
About how weed doesn’t help with paranoid thoughts and can extremely accelerate any psychotic illness HTH and hope you don’t think I’m being harsh.

What do you mean the GP does not care? Has he been to see one?

The only thing you can do is take him to A&E. He needs some kind of medication urgently.

Hi @Winona45 How are things going for you? I’m in a very similar situation. Is your ex your children’s father?