Mental health

[ilovesprouts]

Ive had depression since my daughter was 11 shes now 27 thease past 12m have been very tough for me, been to hospital a few times to get checked over all ok.ive a 13 year old DS2 who has special needs and non verbal and ive lost count of how many times hes left marks on me etc.hes been at my daughters house since last Saturday to give me a break.i know hes got to come back at some point but im struggling etc has not helped because someone phoned the SS up because they said i was beating him up in my garden but i was pushing him away from me.ive enough on my plate at the moment.had a nasty accident in 2013 that left me with life changing injuries and ptsd i just feel im a useless mother.

Sorry you are having a tough time

I'm so sorry, ilovesprouts.

There must be some help available for your son, no parents can be expected to cope alone with a poor child who is so difficult.

You're far from a useless mother, you have had great obstacles in your life and are trying your best. Life really is not fair.

I wonder if your son will attack your daughter while he is with her - I assume she knows what he is like. Maybe she can look into what help you are entitled to. Everyone needs respite. Your son, too, may benefit from being in a different environment at times with other people.

Please keep coming back on here, there will be other posters who have more know how than myself. MN can be very supportive.

No hes absolutely fine at my daughters home like i said the SS are involved now due to a incident and if they find out im struggling they will take him off me and that would break my heart im supposed to be getting some help and respite and ive a meeting at school in jan with the SW but she sent me a copy of the report and its full of lies school told them he smelt of urine and they had to shower him and wash his clothes i was fuming he has clean clothes on every day and the SW asked me when he has a bath etc they are maling me feel worse :(

Some days i think if i dont wake up in the morning im not bothered ive a new granddaughter due in 7 weeks plus my eldests 30 .

I'm not surprised you feel worse if the school is saying things like that. I hope you tackled them on it, makes me think they had your son mixed up with another child who did smell and needed showering.

The social worker should be on your side.

I can only begin to imagine how you feel about not waking up in the morning but the fact is, you probably will for a long time to come - but you need help.

Yes it was written in his home school diary i dont understand why he definitely has clean clothes on every day 😳

The only explanation I can think of - apart from his name being confused with that of another child - is that he had an accident at school, wet himself and sat in it for a while, which necessitated the shower and washing of clothes.

I hope you put them straight.