Hi All, I wonder if anyone can help me?
My fiancee (we're due to get married next September) has recently told me not to contact her. She has not had the easiest of lives and at the moment seems to be going through a bout of depression. This manifests itself in muted anger towards me. I am far from perfect I admit but I try to be as caring and loving as possible. Recently though i seem to be unable to do anything right. For example, I asked to take her to two appointments at her local hospital recently, both quite intrusive, painful and embarrassing for her. She initially declined not wanting the fuss but I insisted, particularly as she took tarmazepan on the second visit and I was concerned about her driving. I tried to show concern without fussing, as she did not want this. A few dys later she criticised me for taking her and for not being 'connected emotionally' to her following the appointment. I apologised and asked what I could do to be better. I don't recall getting an answer I could work with. She has been increasingly critical over the last few weeks, not helped by her going through the menopause. It came to a head yesterday when I walked out of her home (she said she wanted to be alone). I couldn't take more of her criticism. I have recently bought a home for us, one she loves. My house will be sold soon and I will have 6 weeks before I can move. Plan was to move in with her then I move into our home until her son was settled in the hopefully near future. I love her and she loves me (I hope) but at the moment I don't know if she will ever contact me again, she is adamant she doesn't want to hear from me, whether we will get married (I need to tell my family if we aren't, and i have booked everything), if she will live with me (the house is in a very quiet area, 100 miles away from my family and friends - she has no family beyond her son and no close friends). What should I do? Should I just give it some time then contact her, if so how long, do I do as she requests and never contact her again? Last time we spoke it was hard to get any answers to our future beyond me being told not to text, write, or call. Sorry if this post is a little disjointed, my head is fried, not sleeping, can't concentrate... I'm worried about her, and us. If anybody can help I'd be grateful. If there's any other info you think would clarify the situation please ask. Thank you.