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Mental health

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Crisis over Christmas

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Pixiedust74 · 27/12/2019 17:51

I’m the sort of person that keeps my feelings hidden but my partner feels I’m being unreasonable to not be open with the crisis team. It just can’t help who I am so I tell them I’m ok so they leave me alone for the day when deep down I’m struggling.
I tried to hang myself 4 weeks ago so under the crisis team.

OP posts:

LilyJade · 27/12/2019 17:54

It's better to be open with them (says me who is currently not phoning them but needs to).

LuluBellaBlue · 27/12/2019 17:54

Please speak to them and be honest

HomeMadeMadness · 27/12/2019 17:55

I don't want to say YABU so won't vote but I agree with your partner you need to tell the crises team how you're feeling. It's going to be dificult to open up when your instinct tells you to just slope off to bed but it's important to protect your mental health.

SmileEachDay · 27/12/2019 18:00

Do you tell your partner how you feel?

If so, could they advocate for you to the crisis team?
If not, could you write down here how you’re feeling and show it to them?

The biggest risk factor in successful suicide attempts is a previous suicide attempt. It is your choice if you want to do something about that.

Clarinet53 · 27/12/2019 18:35

Could you give permission for your partner to give some details of your situation so that you are able to get help. If not your partner someone else that you trust

WifOfBif · 27/12/2019 18:37

Please be honest with them. If you feel you’re not much of a talker could you write it down? This is what I did when I was under them.

Jollitwiglet · 27/12/2019 18:40

You need to be open and honest with them. They can't help you access the correct care unless they know what is going on. Can you write down how you are feeling and give that to the crisis team?

I have no direct personal experience of working with a crisis team, but a very close family member is under their care several times a year. It makes a big difference when she is able to be honest with them

user1471453601 · 27/12/2019 18:45

What good does not telling the crisis team do? Something to do with your self esteem?

What good might telling the team do? Something about saving your life?

You choose. But, if you have family, keep in mind that you are choosing for them also.

Please, get help. Let those whose job is to help you, do their job

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FlissMumsnet · 27/12/2019 18:54

Hi There Pixiedust74,

We're really sorry to hear you are feeling this way and we hope you'll find some support and comfort here.

We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources.
You can also go to the Samaritans website, or email them on [email protected].

Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek RL help and support as well.

We will be moving your thread across to Mental Health as we feel that's the best place for it.

We hope life takes a turn for the better very soon.

ButtonandPickle19 · 27/12/2019 18:56

I was going to second that, 116123 is the Samaritans. If it’s not an emergency but you need to talk then give them a call.

bridgetreilly · 27/12/2019 19:14

Sweetheart, you can't help who you are, but you can still make choices about what you do. And in this case, you clearly need the help of the crisis team, so you need to find a way of telling them that. You could ask your partner to explain it to them. You could write it down and ask them to read it. You could plan in advance what to say. But you do not need to be bound by the idea that you aren't the sort of person who says what they are feeling.

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