Angry suicidal family member

[NemophilistRebel]

Close family member has been unwell for a long time and is suicidal

After going missing this weekend we reported him missing and the police went to his house.

To great relief he is alive.

This was after visits from family to his house where there was no sign of him being there

Family member has since sent many angry messages and is shutting off even more from the people he thinks are mostly responsible for the police arriving

He has said to parents that he will be attending Christmas with them this year.

I don’t know what I should do, he’s not speaking to me, avoiding any contact I make yet I will be there on Christmas Day

Is there anything I can do to help him be less angry with us?

Police welfare checks are fairly standard if someone is known to be suicidal and stops contact. Whilst he’s that low he might not see that though. The police probably would’ve said something along the lines of that they’re just there as someone was concerned for them and they couldn’t get hold of them. Until he starts to feel better he’s unlikely to see your point of view. Just keep contact up, even if it’s in the form of texts that he can read even if he dies by reply.
Is he under the mh team and does he have the numbers to call over the holidays? I assume they’re aware he’s feeling suicidal?

Unfortunate type *doesn’t reply 🤦‍♀️

Do your part to want him there? Honestly if you were one and a relative showed up arsy about my child I would be arsy right back unless you were one of my other children of course then I would be posting on mumsnet for advice and gin

Parents not part

Suicidal people can get very angry if/when their suicide plans are derailed. Mental illness is not pretty. Once you decide to do it, you feel this euphoria. You feel it is your only escape. So when concerned people figure it out and stop you, you get furious and despairing. You deny everything in the hope they will let down their vigilence and give you a chance to try. But all these emotions and thoughts are not the real you, it’s the illness controlling you.
So, to cut a long story short. There isn’t much you can do to make them less angry. You have to persist and look out for them until they are free from the intrusive thoughts and compulsions.

@slipperywhensparticus we are both siblings so my parents want us both there

They will need lots of gin