DH talked of suicide today

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Just that really. He refuses to get help, says meds don't work. I myself struggle with PND and habe wanted to end my life but I've at least reached out to people and am speaking to them this week.

I doubt he ever would. But I don't like thinking about it. I'd be screwed

Wow. Your DH talks to you about feeling so low he thinks of taking his own life and your reaction is that you don't want to think about it because you would be screwed. He did reach out. He reached out to you.

Just...wow.

He didn't reach out to me, he said it in anger because our son was annoying him. Son is ill and doesn't know any better.

He would never say he'd walk away from us because he doesn't believe in divorce. But this... this was more of a dig at me because he knows I've come close to doing so myself.

I’m glad you’re getting some help for yourself, please make them aware of the full picture, for everyone’s sake including your little boy.

Exp did this.
Became exp.
Still here 10 years later
Sometimes it s just emotional blackmail.
But next time he seems serious call 999 or take him to a and e. Let them assess him. Or dial samaritans hand the phone over

I'm sorry OP that you are struggling with PND.
Do you really think your husband is talking like that because your son annoyed him
If you actually believe what you are writing here then you need to leave.
As someone who has had serious mental health issues, I'm shocked at your response.

Don't believe he was serious at all about doing it, his sister actually is and he doesn't understand it, so know that he's not in danger.
He has said he needs to talk to someone about possibly having depression, but refuses to do so just yet because he says he's not ready. That I can understand.
But he attributes it to his lack of a job, and not postnatal depression, which I know it is as he's only like this when dealing with our children. He says he didn't feel anything when they were born. When they've it makes him angry inside. He feels no pity for them.

I don't know what I can do to get him help. But I can't keep doing this by myself when I'm been so close to ending my own life. I'm trying to give them the love of 2 parents so they're not missing out and I'm exhausted.

Aardvark, if I was genuinely concerned I'd phone someone. I'm more annoyed he used it as a throwaway comment because our son was crying and he didn't want to deal with it because he was tired.

To clarify, when I said I didn't want to think about it, I meant think about the after effects if he had. Because once I start to think about things it then becomes an obsessive thought. I try to think of solutions instead. Otherwise I start to spiral.