I'm in a situation headed towards desperate now. I have a partner of 8 years and we have children under 5.
My partner has been on citalopram for years and recently was switched to sertraline instead. That didn't work out so he's back on cit. He's always insisted he has OCD. He hasn't been diagnosed and honestly I don't believe it's that. He doesn't really have compulsions, it's more mood swings. There's always been a temper but it was 90% great partner 10% really mean. No physical violence but nasty nasty words.
Over the last year it's been moe like 50% nice and the rest nasty. But since November it's been a different mood for every hour. Mostly bad.
I started back to work in the evenings at this time after maternity leave and he has become a different person. I hate leaving him with the kids, they can feel that he can't cope and also they miss me so they have a miserable night every night. For example, my son started being silly last night so my partner sent me angry messages and accused me of 'fucking everyone at work' completely out of the blue.
This is 2 hours an evening. I need some form of income, I can't just leave my job.
Anyway, my partner says he knows something is going wrong in his head. He's asked me to go with him to a doctor and of course I will, we don't want to lose our family but he's leaving me almost no choice.
Are there people that have overcome these behaviours and found support that helps?
As much as he's being awful it's like it's not him. He's not an inherently nasty person, he was always an amazing dad and that's almost gone too.
I'm not sure what I'm asking. Is there hope? What can I do to help him? He hates what he's doing. I also don't want my kids affected, that's my priority. For now they are largely unaware