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Mental health

To think this is utterly shit (Samaritans related)

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PomBearWithAnOFRS · 07/12/2019 05:06

It was a recording. Not a real person. Just a fucking recording with trite phrases.
If they just said "all our people are busy right now, keep trying" it wouldn't be so bad, but to hold for 10 minutes then get a fucking recording is enough to push someone over the edge.
I know this is aibu but can one of you PLEASE just tell me I am a worthwhile person and I will be ok... PLEASE.

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PomBearWithAnOFRS · 11/12/2019 01:01

Sorry to bother you again, I am at work at 9am and it is a work thing that is preying on my mind and fucking me up just now. I am in 9-5 Wednesday, which is a harder shift than my Saturday 9am - Sunday 9am one, and I am not sure I can cope.
Not going in is not an option, so if anyone is still here, a word of encouragement would really be appreciated right now...

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Pomegranatemolasses · 11/12/2019 01:08

Hello Pom,I am here and listening to you. I’ve missed out a little on the earlier stuff, but I can totally relate to how horrid it feels to face work at times.
You are not alone, there’s an army of us out here, struggling, putting on a brave face, crying in the car and yet somehow muddling through.
You will get through tomorrow, as tough as it may feel. And you and I and all the rest of us weary foot soldiers shall bask in the knowledge that we’re not alone.
It will be ok and you are strong.

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EMacCoffee · 11/12/2019 01:48

Hey there, Imhere. I've just read your thread and I'm sorry to hear about the recorded message, I've never had that experience on any helpline I've ever called. I think if they're going to use robots they need to make it clear that it is a robot and not a human so that people don't have experiences like yours.

To the PP who mentioned the CALM helpline: I've been on their website before and it certainly used to say it was just for men? Is this still the case? (Sorry to put this question here OP).

OP you will get through tomorrow. It will all be ok. Keep talking to us x

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DramaAlpaca · 11/12/2019 01:55

I'm here. I've also got a really tough day coming up at work tomorrow, and I'll hold your hand if you'll hold mine. It'll be tough, but d'you know what? We'll get through it & it'll be OK.

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PomBearWithAnOFRS · 11/12/2019 02:32

Thanks "Vipers", I didn't actually think anyone would be here!
@Drama I will SO hold your hand, and will picture you holding mine through today. It WILL help me get through, and hopefully will help you too!

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manorroee · 11/12/2019 02:32

Hey OP.
Just count down the hours and have some chocolates at the ready for 5pm!

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DramaAlpaca · 11/12/2019 21:25

PomBear how did you get on today? Mine wasn't as bad as expected. Thanks for the handhold

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PomBearWithAnOFRS · 12/12/2019 13:35

I went and it was ok. I got through the day, then about two hours after I got home I realised I did something wrong. I texted the colleague on the sleepover and she was lovely about it and sorted it out for me thankfully.
I have the sleepover on Saturday but weekends tend to be quiet so it should be ok.

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PomBearWithAnOFRS · 14/12/2019 00:32

And, ahead of my 24 hour shift starting at 9am today, I have logged on and read the daily notes/reports/Comms book, only to find a colleague has totally thrown me under the bus for something that happened last week. She could have easily just asked me about it, it's easily explained, but now the "worst case scenario" is on the record and all I can do is wait for the hammer to fall so to speak.
I honestly don't know how much longer I can do this, and I can't quit because DH's mental health means he can't look for a job just now, and we're on UC so no work means no money and constant bombardment with hoops to jump through which makes both our MH worse.
I HAVE to keep going, and I honestly don't think I can. I have three children asleep upstairs and they deserve better than this. They need me, but I am crap.
If DH was a single parent, would UC be as hard on him?
I don't know what to do, and later today, I will literally have people's lives in my hands...

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DramaAlpaca · 14/12/2019 02:36

Oh PomBear I'm not sure what to say here about your situation other than it sounds utterly crap & bloody tough. And you are NOT crap, I know you're not. You are doing your best in a difficult situation. I can't do much other than offer another handhold & a virtual

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StrangeLookingParasite · 14/12/2019 21:38

If DH was a single parent, would UC be as hard on him?

Don't think this. Please don't.