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Severe anxiety at work... I feel so embarrassed

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CloudsCanLookLikeSheep · 04/12/2019 13:55

I went through a phase a few weeks ago of getting very anxious at work and letting this show. I felt my boss was telling me off for things I thought I'd done correctly without giving the opportunity to discuss/explore why , and she also blamed me for something that wasn't my fault and wouldn't listen to my explanation. I was not rude or inappropriate, but its fair to say it lead to a certain amount of tension between us and I was not eating, not sleeping etc and basically let her know I was finding things difficult, especially the incident where I was blamed for doing something wrong without evidence. She put a file note on my file, I said I wanted to put a letter stating why I didn't believe I had caused the incident. This was really stressful, both the original incident and the fact that I then felt I had to defend myself by putting my own note on my file.

Things are on more of an even keel now, but I just had my review with my boss yesterday and it's clear she now thinks I am a nutter. Saying things like 'I'm not your psychologist' and 'It's work, you have to get on with it' 'you have to control your feelings, I can't control how you feel'

I feel like she's saying that I have no right to be upset about anything or express it. I get that it's work, but she was the one making me upset by how I was treated. I don't know now if I did over react. She made me feel like she thinks I'm a complete nutter. I'm not sure if there's anything I can do, feels like our relationship is not in a good place now and not sure if it will recover.

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FirTree31 · 04/12/2019 20:30

This could be misconstrued as harresment as this sounds intimadating. Perhaps look up harresment on Acas website. Can you speak to the line manager of your line manager? It sounds really stressful, you shouldn't be spoken to like this.

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