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Social Anxiety and Depersonalisation

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JulieJones22 · 25/11/2019 17:54

I'm a stay at home Mum who has suffered with SA most of my life. What I am struggling with is feeling spaced out when I get anxious, which, through googling, I have deduced is Depersonalisation.

I have made a lot of friends since becoming a Mum, but most of them I don't feel able to be myself around. Especially if I deem them "better" than me in any way - e.g. better looking, younger, more popular.

Despite this, I still meet up with these groups, but every time I do, I feel spaced out and am chatting absolute nonsense, as I don't feel connected to myself. One such friend asked me today what I did over the weekend "I can't remember", I replied. I literally couldn't. My brain was like fog. I had not grounding to the rest of me, I felt like I was floating.

Of course this feeling is awful and made worse by the fact there are people around me, so I have to act "normal". The pressure of this and worrying if they can tell just makes it all worse.

I came away from today's catchup just feeling dreadful and ashamed about myself. These "friends" must think I am odd as I am odd when I am experiencing this.

I have a doctors appointment this evening. He wants me to go back on Citilopram but I don't want to as we are hoping to have another child. I am meeting a counsellor on Wednesday to see if they can help me.

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DtPeabodysLoosePants · 04/12/2019 09:41

Your mental health needs to come first. It doesn't sound as though you are in the right place mentally for the rigours of ttc, pregnancy, childbirth and having a newborn.

I recognise use you from another thread and it really is the last thing you and your marriage need right now.

Keep going with the therapy and consider the citalipram if it helped you before.

IdblowJonSnow · 04/12/2019 09:47

Please dont feel ashamed. You sound brave and strong by going along to these groups despite feeling this way. Is it the best thing for you though? Can you think of a couple of things to discuss in advance to help you feel more on top of things?
I've felt a bit like that before and its draining.
I hope your therapy is helping? Could you try a lower dose for a shorter time? Obvs that's something to discuss with your GP.
Hope you're ok.

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