My siblings and I are not close (traumatic childhood fractured our family.) I would love to be closer....but one sibling moved away years ago and uses the physical distance to maintain emotional distance....the other lives 10 minutes away yet has visited me twice in 18 months. I know intellectually I can't make them want to have more of a relationship with my and my children....but every year at christmas I still get hurt when no one wants to come to me, and nor do I get an invite to theirs. I got divorced this year so this will be my first christmas alone. Still no invites or visits....in fact having mentioned to both that I was not looking forward to christmas this year, it ended up simply being about them since to quote, 'You've made me feel guilty now!'
I know really that it is a legacy of the shit we went through as children...but even so, how do I stop their emotional distance from affecting me? I am already on anti-depressants yet I am starting to struggle with my low mood 
Luckily I have good friends so I won't be totally on my own...but I still yearn for family closeness. Any tips on how to get through it all??