Depressed???

[JadeJade25]

Currently 17+3 days with my 2nd child.. the baby’s dad decided to up and leave when I was 11 weeks. I am finding some days hard thinking about doing this alone with 2 children. Other days I feel fine about it.. I mean I did it once on my own I can do it again right??? Anyway I’m feeling very down and upset quite a lot lately. Just wondering if any of you mammas have had depression or just general sadness during pregnancy?

Looking back, I was depressed during my first pregnancy. I cried a lot. I was very anxious about silly things. I was having a lot of irrational thoughts - kept thinking the baby would be born black, even though both DH and I are white with no black ancestors and I haven;t ever had a black boyfriend. And when your thought process is so irrational it's not really something you can share with the midwife....

I struggled to bond with the baby when he was born but things got better after the birth and I didn't slip into post natal depression. The depression didn;t come back during my later pregnancies either.

I think pregnancy depression is very common. You've got a lot on your plate and the hormones are running wild. Take care of yourself.

Do you definitely want to stay pregnant? Poor you. Sound like life has thrown you a real curve ball. Could you book an appt with your GP? Do you have a good support system?

@Cecilandsnail Yeah I still want to be pregnant, I’m so excited to have another baby girl. It’s just some days it all gets too much. The baby’s dad doesn’t seem to really bother much he texts every now and again. I’m sure it will all get better when baby is here. Just having a tough time at the min. I only have my grandma as my support and she just doesn’t understand. And I don’t want to bother my friends with my problems so I just deal with it myself. I feel like if I tell my midwife I’m depressed everyone’s going to judge me as a mother and I don’t want the baby’s father thinking I can’t cope when I know I can.