Could this be depression?

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We moved to Oz in 06 & now dh (who wanted to come here) doesn't want to be here. He wants out & to go back to the UK. Thread here mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=2423&threadid=374131

He was on propanolol years ago for anxiety (following a bad dose of flu & food poisioning) & weaned himself off, quite succesfully around 2001. He did have some therapy, but didn't finish the course & seemed fine. He went back on it during the visa process to come here & is still on it.

Today he has been quite moody. He promised dd to go to the park but didn't take her, just sat watching TV & locked away in bedroom (although he said he was tired).

I don't know if leaving will 'fix' it as I don't really know what the problem is.

He hates DRs etc, but I will suggest therapy as a starter.

yeah. wallowing and hiding are signs. i do that.

he can be yanked out of it if its only just started. tho, the triggers which send him down or up again are individual, so what works for me, may not for him (not helpful, soz!)

activity, no matter how much i detest the thought, is almost always a distraction and then a trigger for climbing back out of the hole. can you come up with some pressing need to go somewhere or send him somewhere ona mission ...?

even forcing myself out to the shops coz we are toally out of milk sometimes does it...

Funny you should say that about the milk...he just went to get some, but it doesn't seem to have helped much..he just moaned that it cost $5 (petrol station).

It's dark here now (8pm), so not much chance of getting him out but will try during the week to get out as a family.

Thank you for your reply.

hey no wukkas!

it can be incredibly isolating to feel the way (i think) he does... but imo at least as hard to be a partner watching.

family outing a v good idea.