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Bad therapy session

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slavetothemoney · 05/11/2019 14:56

I have been seeing a psychotherapist weekly for the last 10 weeks.
At the very beginning, I told her something bad which had happened as a child (involving my brother). It has subsequently come up in later sessions.
Today though, she had completely forgotten this. The session seemed to have no structure, and she asked me questions I'd answered weeks ago.
One of my main reasons for seeing her is an extreme lack of self worth/self esteem due to past issues.
After today's session though, I've been left feeling really rubbish. Like I'm not actually being listened to at all, and it's made me question continuing with therapy at all.
I'm due to see my cpn tomorrow. Should I bring this up with her? Or just chalk it up to the therapist having an 'off' day?
Up until today, I thought sessions were going well. Now I feel like I'm just a number to them, not a person with feelings, and that they probably think I'm wasting their time.

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onthecoins · 05/11/2019 15:01

It's tricky. Remember therapists are people too and sometimes they also have a lot going on in their lives.

My counsellor once fell asleep halfway through one of our sessions - I felt pretty upset - as if I was boring her. I later found our that her Dad was in a hospice in his final days, and she had spent the previous night awake at his bedside.

We all have bad days.

slavetothemoney · 05/11/2019 17:25

I get what you're saying. I really do. Part of me thinks just write it off, she was probably having a bad day.
But, and it's a big but.. the piece of information she had 'forgotten' is massively triggering for me (involves sexual abuse). And to have to talk about it again as if it was new information to her really threw me.
It's part of the reason I'm in therapy.

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HoliBobber · 05/11/2019 21:41

It can be really empowering to raise a miscommunication in a therapy session with your therapist.

I've done it twice, the first time the therapist apologised for getting the wrong end of the stick, I respected her honesty (although in hindsight we could also have explored why it was so triggering for me after).

The second time, it made me realise the therapist wasn't right for me. She seemed to make everything intellectual. I actually ended it shortly after and that was empowering, because I stood up for myself, and Nothing Bad Happened.

Maybe you could ask her in a sort of fact finding way, 'last week you asked me x, and I'd thought we'd covered it already, so I was wondering was there any reason why we went over it again, as it really triggers my anxiety'.

Or signal the topic, 'I'd like to bring up something that happened last week as it made me feel uncomfortable etc. TOTALLY valid to tell your therapist how you feel!

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